who did this to u hun?x

you should go to the police if you havn't yet. Thats what i did and it may not seem like they care but at least you will be standing up for yourself and getting"him" at least looked into and possibly sentenced other then that i say family if you are close to them if you aren't then im here and i have issues of my own but i can talk with you about it

we all feel the shame, the fear and the anger. You "cope" by allowing yourself to feel what you want, when you want. Anything you can find to give yourself even a little bit of control, thats a start. If you have noone else to talk to, use the people on this site. There is no judgeing because it happened to all of us. We are our own strength, the strength in our numbers, and always being willing to help each other. Thats how you cope, for today anyway!

One deep breath after another is a good place to start. I agree with rachgrell, go to the police and at least make a statement. Don't be scared. As bad as what happened to you, you couldn't possibly embarrass anyone with your story. Unfortunately the PD who handle rape cases have heard it all before. You are strong and you can use your voice. It will make you feel loads better, take a weight off your shoulders if you do. You didn't ask for this, you don't deserve it, you did nothing wrong he did so do your best to bring him to justice.
I am so sorry you are hurting. People here are are always going to be able to listen if you need to talk.

WELL THE FIRST THING I DID AFTER I WAS RAPED I TOLD THE POLICE AND I CALLED RAPE CRISIS.IT IS NORMAL TO FEEL ASHAMED BUT IT WAS,NT YOUR FAULT.

Everyone has given you perfect advice. First, YOU have no reason to feel ashamed. Second, do not be scared to tell someone. Third, to cope? GO TO THE POLICE, REPORT IT and BRING CLOSURE TO THIS NOW so you can go on with YOUR life. Coping with it takes time.............. but first and foremost, don't let him do it someone else. Take control of what YOU can take control of now. Your own life being number one............ and seeing that he gets what he deserves............... THAT you can control! Get your butt to the authorities............. YOU can now CONTROL HIM instead of vice versa!

there is no one way to cope...you have to figure thta out for yourself..I prayed..and talked..mostly on here..bcuz here people understand! I cant tell you what to feel better...only thta it does get better

Hi britt,

I know everyone sayds to tell the police...and if somthing happened to a person i knew and not me...i'd say the same. but after hearing everyone say "tell the police,tell the police" I couldn't, and still cant. i still feel guilty/like they won't believe me/like it was my fault...it wasn't, but there is a new part of me i dont recognise...and it's confusing me.

I did however (somthing pro-active-yay!) I went to this place...sort of a half way point. not the police, but the police use the service. they took sawbs,and the clothes i was wearing...they'll keep them for up to 7 YEARS! just in case I want to report it later!!!!!also, you can give an "anonymous statement...so that they have his details if he does it again...but it wont involve you.

Im in the UK...but im sure they'll have this in other contries???

Chat to someone tho-im lucky...ive people who i can approach...they dont always know what to do...probably feel awkward...but im glad they're there...it really helps.

hope this helps you babe

x