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I have a male friend who has very recently told me that he was sexually molested by his uncle from ages 9 to 15. He has not spoken about it since he was 15 and he is now 31. Although we have been friends for a very long time, our relationship has recently grown to more than friends. The reason that he told me about this issue is that he is feeling that he needs to warn me of who he is. He has never been faithful to a woman. He says that no matter how much he has cared about people in the past, he can't seem to stay faithful. He is also an alchoholic and a drug abuser (just pot now although he has been addicted to other things). He is unsure of being with me because he is destined to hurt me. Because we have been such close friends for so long and he cares so much for me he can't do what he normally does. He has 2 children that he loves dearly and wants to work through his issues so that he can be a good role model for them and so that he can allow himself to be truely happy. I have realized through trying to find a way to help him that I have unresolved issues of my own. My past problems have made it impossible to trust anyone. How can I help my friend resolve his issues and resolve mine at the same time?