
Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

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I *thought* I had healed. I realize now that I had never delt with anything and now that I am a few years into a wonderful healthy supporting marriage issues have began to surface.
I have had problems being close and intimate with my husband lately. I don't have any reason to not trust him, he has always been supportive of me and very loving.
I have never had any issues being close with him so why is this a problem now? He knows about my past and knows what happened to me.
I want so much to be close to him but physically touch has really scared me lately.
How have you been able to get back to normal with your loved one? Or have you?
We have talked about it and we are open with each other and it's something I will be discussing with my counselor as well but was still curious what others have done.
I have had problems being close and intimate with my husband lately. I don't have any reason to not trust him, he has always been supportive of me and very loving.
I have never had any issues being close with him so why is this a problem now? He knows about my past and knows what happened to me.
I want so much to be close to him but physically touch has really scared me lately.
How have you been able to get back to normal with your loved one? Or have you?
We have talked about it and we are open with each other and it's something I will be discussing with my counselor as well but was still curious what others have done.
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It's sort of an emotional flare-up, so to speak. Most likely, it will last a week or month, and then you will be comfortable being intimate with him again.
I recall similar situations with myself. For example, I was moving to my new house, and took my father's ashes with me. I didn't break down or anything. Then recently, I just happened to glance at them and began crying. I was CARRYING them the first time and never cried, but now I look at them and cry? Now, a week later, I can look at them and they don't sadden me.
So you see, sometimes memories or reactions to memories flare-up, sort of, and then calm back down.
Try to keep in mind that you won't react like this to him forever, that it's just temporary. It may happen again, though, but it will be temporary then as well. Keep that in mind and do your best to try and block out the past.
I'm here for you if you need to pm me at all.
Take care, and congrats on having an understanding husband. :) They are very rare these days.
I know what you mean about having problems being close. As for me, my current boyfriend new of my situation before we dated (hell, he drove me to the psych hospital one time at 2am). I guess it's about surrounding yourself with people who will be patient, who know that even though you push them away they should keep trying, and getting away from people who don't get it or refuse to try.
I guess the only thing you can do is tell your husband how you feel and take it slowly. That's my opinion anyways.