Yes, you're still a virgin. Maybe not in the completely physical sense, but that part doesn't matter. Your virginity is something that you GIVE away. You didn't give yours away. Therefore, I believe that you still have it, and you will until you willfully make love with someone. I've dealt with this thought myself a lot, but I completely believe that we're still virgins until WE give it away. If you need a fellow virgin friend, I'm always here. You're in my prayers. Lots of love.

I have to agree with Leigh, it's the question of choice/consent that's important.
Ideally when you *do* start having sex, it'll be with someone you trust enough to tell about the rape, but it's up to you to decide when the moment's right for that.

thank you so much for your replies. I just am afraid people will think I'm just saying I was assaulted because I felt guilty about having sex and wished I was a virgin still.

whoops this wasn't my post but I have the same question/ dilemma.

yeah, do people think you're just saying that because you feel guilty about losing your virginty?

The way that I see it you have nothing to be ashamed of by saying that you are still a virgin. Like others have said it has to be given away and cannot be taken
*hugs* here if you want to talk xx

thanks everyone

I'm in exactly the same position. I was raped when I was 15. I was a virgin. I havn't had sex since. I still am a virgin and will be until I GIVE it away. Rape isn't about sex its about violence and power. Hold on to it and give it to someone you love

I believe you are still a virgin.
My brother started raping me when I was an infant until I was 5,Would you say I was a virgin?
When I was 9 my cousin raped me,was I still a virgin?
Mentally and emotionally yes I was.
Sometimes you have to seperate the body from the heart and mind.
Rape isn't something we ask for or want or are ready for, EVER.
But it happens,as a teen I was raped 4 more times,and I can tell you that it does create alot of problems sexually.
I hope in your case when the time is right that you will pick someone who really cares about you and would not question for a moment that you had been raped.
And if someone does question that then pass them by,you don't need people like that in your life.

I haven't felt like a virgin since it happened; not physically, emotionally, or mentally... I don't know why. Is that wrong?

I'm so sorry you had to go though this. I said I was a virgin until I willing sleep with someone. I would not say I wasn't a virgin because he took that away from me. I might have be a virgin in since of physical but I was a virgin in my mine. Until you decide to sleep with someone you will be a virgin.