my daughter was raped; told me to ignore it, won't talk about it, HATES the idea of counseling because she doesn't know what she feels and can't articulate. Last week got into a horrible car wreck (not her first one - 3 wrecks in 18 months); totaled car, broken collarbone and bruised up. She drives too fast, sleeps too little, is over the top angry and irritable, stays way too busy, has been really depressed (somewhat better now); seems clear to me that she is working really hard to keep the rape buried, and it's coming out in other ways. She's moving away to college come summer, I have little time to really get her any help. I am doing all her driving for her now due to the broken bones. I know she thinks that as soon as that heals, she will be back to independence. Im considering leveraging the last bit of influence I have; telling her that in order to stay under our household insurance (she can't get independent insurance until she's 18 - six more months) I will require that she go into counseling to discuss the factors that are affecting her life and manifesting in the behaviors I described above. I know it's my last chance to require it, and I know she needs it, but she doesn't think she does, and will be really pissed about the requirement. She could also choose not to go, and remain dependent on my driving until 18 when she can secure her own insurance. So I'm still giving her a choice, but to get want she wants (independence) I'll get what I want (counseling for her) I am struggling with the question of whether it can help her if she is resistant to it. Any advice out there?
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