Rape Support Group

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dying inside

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I put on a smile after my first cup of coffee, I pretend everything is okay and being hurt doesnt bother me anymore. The memory is there the flashbacks, i dont even wanna go there. How to express how i truely feel when i cant express anything at all, but i fake smile and laugh. How do i get over this or get past it.
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It isn't something you can just "get over". It is something that takes a long, LONG time to process. It takes years to even begin to heal from it. The memories will always be there - maybe they won't always be the first thing on your mind, but they will never go away. It takes learning how to deal with those memories and learning how to accept that this did happen to you - that you weren't to blame - and that even though it will always hurt, it won't always be the only thing you feel. The pain won't last forever. It will take a long time, but it will get easier to deal with. I know - it took me almost 14 years to be able to think about it without wanting to pop open a vein or swallow handfulls of pills. I now know that even though they took a part of me away, they did not and CAN NOT take my life. I will survive and I will learn from my experiences and I will make sure I don't let it get the best of me.

I wish you the best. Don't expect this to happen overnight. It takes time - lots and lots of time.

XOXOX
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Writing out how you feel or talking to someone usually help out a lot. I don't know when this to you, and it happened to me three years ago and I am still dealing with its aftermath the depression, the ptsd, and the social anxiety. But it has been getting easier to cope with. I feel better when I write in my journal about whats bugging me or talking to a trusted friend about it. The process is a long tedious one, but one worth the wait. I have to admit it has made me a stronger person to deal with tougher issues now.
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You sound just like I feel and act just as I do. I'm seriously considering conseling and more than likely going to look into the first of the year. It's something to consider. It's not something you can snap your fingers and over come it's going to take time and strength. Venting about it helps some. Writing about it support groups might even be something worth looking into. Best wishes and luck in your healing.
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I'm not "over" mine yet either. The first one was 20 years ago. I know who the jerk was. I am not over it. What he did was sick and disgusting and wrong. I hate him.
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