Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
I went shopping this weekend and I had a panic attack because I was really confused. Am I supposed to wear clothes to make me look good and people will like me? But then people might blame me for "asking for it" should something ever happen. If I wear clothes to really cover up, then I might look really weak and that I don't matter that much in the world. I might be an easy target that way too. I just don't know what to do any more. If I wear something innocent and cute like a cardigan set, do I now look like a naive girl who needs to toughen up? If I wear something tough, will people think I'm a bitch and the good people won't help me if I need help? I just don't want to be criticized for anything. Should anything bad ever happen to me, I want people to help me and not blame me for anything. I don't know how to act anymore. I feel lost.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
How about dressing the way you did before? Even if you walk around naked, no normal person will rape you. There is no way that a normal person will rape another person under any circumstances. It takes a rapist to rape.
We have the right to walk around naked without being raped.
My advice is this;
Be proud of who you are, what you look like and do whatever the hell you like without worrying about what everyone else thinks of you. No-one actually takes any notice because they're so wrapped up in themselves.
I used to enjoy relying on my tattoos and piercings to scare off unwanted attention, but these days even that seems to say "hello big boy" to the most unattractive men, thanks to the likes of Bizarre magazine.
In other words, there's nothing 'right' you can do about other people's perceptions, even if you hit on something that works for you right now it might not do so forever ......... which might sound harsh but it's also liberating to realise that you *can* wear whatever you like and it won't make any difference :)