NO. You did NOT ask for anything.

I was drugged. Does that mean I asked for it? NO. Unfortunately, though, I wasn't given quite enough, so I still remember a lot of what happened. It was horrible and uncalled for.

Being drunk is not asking for it. Even if you WERE promiscuous, it's not asking for it. You fought as hard as you could. You lost the battle, but you can still win the war. You have nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about....but I DO understand those feelings. I still feel that way after fifteen years.

Hang in there.

Think of it this way. When you see a drunk person, do you think that if you wanted to rape that person it would be ok, and they deserved it?

Do you think that if someone came up and started to rape that person, that this would seem ok to you?

Rape is unthinkable. There is no possible justification for it. Maybe if you were not drunk, or if you worked out more, or if you had taken that self defense course, you would have been able to fight off your attacker. So what? Attackers are justified in attacking people who cannot fight them off? what kind of sick society would condone that?

You certainly did not deserve what happened to you. Drinking causes poor judgment, but it's not your fault. I have been raped under the influence of alcohol before. I know now that it is not my fault.

NO!!

No one desrves to go through that!!! I was drunk and got kncocked out by one of my bfs at the time Mates I didn't ask for it!!!!
DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF IN ANYWAY!!!!
Whether or not you slept around or not doesn't mean someone had the right to do waht they did to you!!
Reen xx

You did not ask for it and you didn't do anything wrong. Your sexual orientation, your sex life and, your alcohol consumption did not infulence this person to do what they did more than the way the stars were alined that day. They abused you in the worse possible way and you did not deserve it. I know I am female and even if I was male I wouldn't know how you as an individual feels but I can say please don't let him win. Take care of yourself, mind and body and please don't lose your voice like a lot of us did. Hugs and best wishes.

Being drunk was a dangerous situation to put yourself in, but you still did not ask for it.

this is the worst isnt it cuz you know you couldve foughten back..and this probably wouldnt have happened if you were sober...and thats probably true...Im going through this too...I was drunk...and I invited him over...that doesnt mean anything...I didnt ask for it and neither did you!...this constant doubting really sucks I know...just know that your NOT ALONE

PS Being gay has nothing at all to do with it. Why would it?

Rape is illegal drunk or not.. I have not had a drink since May of 1998 and one attacker asked me for wine I was so disoeriented the house was spinning I could not wal my sides were hurting and my legs would not hold by I said I dont drink he laughed he was with this girl LISA K and ran out of my house....Laughing I can not tell you what a horror show Rape is Rape....

I have massive guilt about being drunk/drugged, too. Now that I'm not, I have feelings of massive anger, of the retaliatory type. Found out in rehab I had to forgive myself after I forgave the three of them. It was tough, but afforded some healing. Hang in there.