I fell in love with a man who said not only did his natural mother molest him growing up, but he was raped by a man of the church at age 15. He told me all this after we shared one amazing experience on the beach one night and I had no idea. That when I was having the most memorable night of my life, he was having problems with bad memories coming back. He said he didn't think that would happen but it did. Now he's making me wait until he works out his issues further with his doctor. But can an issue like that be worked out enough to have a normal relationship? I was extremely hurt that he didn't tell me this a head of time because I was recently getting out of an abusive marriage. He knew this and I said one of the biggest problems I had with my ex was that he wasn't very affectionate and didn't love me and touch me enough. So I was looking to this guy to love on me and touch and kiss me and make me feel better it's what I desperately need. Only now I find this out and the last few times we were together he couldn't even let me hug him or kiss me goodnight. He tells me I'm not respecting him and being patient. He claims that in a week he will give a relationship with me a full chance. He says we'll have sex again but doesn't know when and he also claims he will be more touchy , feely with me. But it has to be when he says so. I'm really upset because I've lived without one of the most important things that makes me happy and feel good for such a long time. I don't think I can wait or stop pushing him to meet my needs and I'm scared even though he says he will, that he really won't be able to. Maybe not even ever. Can someone whose been through all of this trauma ever be able to be the kind of guy I'm really really needing or should I look elsewhere. He says he's been hesitant because he's been hurt before and doesn't want to be hurt again. I assure him that my love for him is strong and I will definitely try not to hurt him if he gives himself to me. But this waiting thing is really hard for me. Since I need his love now. Please help has anyone been through these things that he had to endure then move on and have a relationship, will these memories come up for him every time were together? HELP
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