Rape Support Group
If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.
Ok, trying to be a bit understanding here. What the hell is going on. How can a rapist ask us what he should do about his feelings for someone he almost raped! If I was expected to make excuses for someone like that then I could have avoided what happened to me, right??? We are supposed to be using this site as a way to find some closure and validation. Reliving what I could have done to avoid what happened to me by finding an excuse for a rapist is freakin' ridiculous!! This is causing more damage that good. Am I alone in this???
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I dont know about that. While I see and completely understand what you sayin, he said he hasnt raped her, only that he tried. He at least seems to want to do the right thing. Now the problem is that I think I saw his cousin post on there, sayin it wasnt his fault, which of course is complete horse shit. The situation seems to be...complicated doesn't?
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GEE,i remember screaming (NO,NO,NO,) but i guess maybe i should have said (PRETTY PLEASE,NO,NO,NO GENTLEMEN) DON'T THINK SO,NOT,DAHHHHHHHHH,I DON'T THINK IT WOULD HAVE MADE A DIFFERENCE,NO MEANS NO,MEANS NO.WHAT PART OF THE WORD IS IT THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND,BEEN THERE,HAD IT DONE TO ME,GOT NO TEE-SHIRT,DARN I GUESS I WAS WRONG TOO FOR NOT SENDING A THANK YOU CARD,SHAME ON ME,WHAT BAD MANNERS.YEAH RIGHT.MOLESTERS,RAPISTS,IT IS AN ACT OF VIOLENCE,NO MORE,NO LESS,BUT WE THE VICTIMS SOMETIMES BLAME OURSELVES,BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT WE HEARD FROM IGNORANT PEOPLE,THAT DID NOT GO THROUGH IT.SORRY NO FORGIVENESS FROM THIS OLD CHICK ,AND NO I DO NOT MAKE EXCUSES ANYMORE,I LEARNED BUT IT TOOK A LONG TIME.THERE IS NO EXCUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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As much as it sickens me to say this I must.... THIS SITE is for everyone-- victims as well as those who have victimized. Us victims speaking out can let those know that are doing the victimizing what they are doing to us physically and emotionally. Some of them are just repeating cycles of abuse, some are starting cycles of abuse. Hopefully by being on this site they have recognized what they have done or what they are doing and are trying to get help. If we keep communicating and stop being silent about what happened to us then maybe we can do something to help stop the abusive cycles that keep going and keep forming. I made the huge mistake of not speaking out years ago--but I will be damned if I stay silent now--I am not that weak innocent little girl anymore--the tough situations my Life has been through has taught me to stand up for myself--NO ONE WILL EVER VICTIMIZE ME AGAIN--that is what the motto of our lives should be.--So remember that when you are starting a discussion or responding to a discussion there could be a current/former victimizer among us readingso make your statement strong and true-show them you wont be victimized againU never know who is a victimizer when U have a keyboard separating you from the rest of the members on this site. You never know where those victimizer are, or who they are.
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