I've done the same thing with my boyfriend... It's extremely embarrassing.... especially when he feels like he's done something wrong when he really hasn't. It makes me feel terrible, because it's so hard to explain it to him!

It happens to me occasionally. Something triggers my past and there I am...crying silently and starting to dissociate until my boyfriend stops and asks if I'm okay. I'm so embarrassed that I can't answer. He always wants me to talk to him about how I was feeling, but I can't. It's so frustrating for both of us. I don't know how to make it stop. If you find a way, pass it on to me! LOL

I never cry during sex, I go numb and dissociate like I did during my rapes. After wards I might cry or get angry.

How to make it stop? I wish I knew.

Find a good therapist with experience in this area.

It's happened to a partner with me. Don't be embarrassed. If you can explain, I think most decent guys would understand, or at least try to, and be sensitive and caring.

If you can't say it's more difficult, and I think most people would assume it was something to do with them. But, if but you could say something line, "I'm sorry, it's not your or us. It's something from the past, but I'm not ready to talk" that may help (though I think most guys would have a fairly good idea what that "something" was).

Either way, you're not a freak, and it's okay to cry.

And I totally agree with CherieBonBon: find a good, sensitive, therapist.

yes it happened to me. I tried the one night and broke down and cried. I agree with the other people I think a good therapist would be good. Hope your feeling better.

I've never broken down and cried but I do dissacoiate and go numb, I've made it stop by not having a boyfriend and thus not having sex - I will again one day but I want to heal first and be as strong inside as I can be and know how to handle my triggers should it happen again once I reengage in sexual activity.
There is nothing wrong with crying but help your partner to help you by letting him know that it's not him that is hurting you or upsetting you - try and talk to him about bits of your experieces, don't have to go into every detail, just let him know you're working through abuse/rape issues and this may happen once in a while and it's not his fault

Agh this happened last week.
Cant really say I was triggered by one specific thing like I have been before (i.e. hands around my neck, or to much force) I just out of the blue jumped off, yes off which is even more puzzling and started crying =( ugh I dont understand it either

ive been there i don't think it is something you can stop. there are times where i start crying and just curl up in my partners arms. does your boyfriend know what happened if so, even though it is embarassing he should understand and not judge you. its not your fault it happens. and when it does just makes sure he knows what you need when u get upset.

that has happened with my wife and I.it scared her.and me. I cannot say how to make it go away, but if he loves you, then he can help you through it.describe the way and what you are feeling.scared? hunted? painful?terrified? worthless? questions to ask yourself.it can help you find the root.obviouslt this is very deep in your soul for it to come out like this.praying for you.

I've been there.. I am there.. I don't know how to make it stop either.. If you ever just need someone to talk to about it.. i'm here

this has happened to me also. sometimes i have flashbacks to during the day. but im not embarrassed about it at all. why should i be embarrassed after what that asshole did to me. ya know! fuck it