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Okay, I just had a whole post written out describing my amazement at how accurate and inspiring this book I just bought is. BUT, somehow I deleted the post before submitting it LOL. Anyway, I found a book called "The Sexual Healing Journey - A Guide for Sexual Abuse Survivors" written by Wendy Maltz.
My relationship with my boyfriend was falling apart and we really didn't understand each other anymore. We were becoming more and more frustrated with each other and didn't see a very bright light at the end of the tunnel for us after our last fight. This book has completely turned our relationship around. I am only to chapter two, and neither one of us can believe how accurate and right on the nose the author is with her descriptions of emotions/reactions/feelings of survivors and their partners. The author has been molested and raped herself, and was involved in some poor relationships along the way; its obvious she understands where we are all coming from as her descriptions feel as though we wrote the words ourselves onto the pages of her book.
There was one section that I read about how it can affect a survivor's partner in a relationship. I had to show it to my boyfriend immediately! I couldn't believe how much it sounded like him. He read it, put it down, then said, "Whoa. That is EXACTLY how I feel." He had said the same words to me so many times, but I felt that he was just being selfish or just refused to see my perspective of our situation. I also showed him other sections that described how I felt in the perfect words. He read them and then we would look at each other without talking as if to say, "Now I understand." We have read a lot of books and some have been helpful, but this one is amazing.
My boyfriend and I have a newfound connection and respect for each other now. We are truly started to understand how each other feels and know that we are both "normal" considering what we are dealing with. I feel like we are in this together again.
I hope this can be an inspiring book for some of you as well. I would just have listed this under recommendations, but I felt like I had to put it out there for all to see... I know I haven't looked at the recommendation list in quite some time, so I didn't want anyone to miss this one :O)