It's not your fault that your friends don't know how to handle it, it's just not their fault either because they really don't know. I've had problems in the past with some of my friends as well. These days I just stick with the more sensible ones who can handle it but at the same time I don't expect them to take the place of professional support.
Try and find a good counsellor via rape crisis/ rape support services in your area, you'll be able to say anything you like to them and they won't freak out about it.

I do know exactly what you are talking about......I have a therapist and a rape counsellor and they are awesome and have helped me a lot......but at the same time they each only see me an hour a week and there are times when you just need to talk to someone outside of those times and people just don't know how to respond or how to be there......it sucks and I wish I knew an answer for you but I'm struggling with the same thing......I'm here for you though :-)

Noway are you baing annoying.

I used to think I was also but one of my cousins told me the reason people shy away is cause the love you and hate seeing you in pain and they don't quite know how to respond to all the emotion that comes, also they don't want to say anything to upset us or ask the wrong questions.

it's weird right ..you think your friends are with you through thick and thin but when it comes to the taboo of R--- they and most of society can't handle the ugly truth that this crime is very real and affects normal people everyday.

I'm soo sorry this hurts you...I'm with you though, as are many others here on DS...it's a hard thing to handle and it hurts like crazy when you feel that type of emotional abandonment from your friends and family.
I'm here anytime you want to talk ...I fell the same way all the time so please feel free to discuss anything you like.

Hope you feel better!

Hugs and Butterfly Kisses!

yeah this always happens to me as well, i just wish they would listen if they asked me what was wrond, e.g. rape etc
just wish that they could understand the way in which i feel. and when i need to talk i need to talk

that is exactly 100% what im feeling right now, i want to talk about it, but i dont know how to bring it up without sounding, i guess as you said, annoying. i dont want to make them feel uncomfortable, but what can i do, i want her to ask me, i know she wants to help, but i need someone to want to know how i am!
i really do get what you're saying but i dont know how to help as i have the same issue!

wow I can relate to you so much, because I too feel that I am being annoying. I have only told 3 people two of which I dont talk to anymore and the other is a teacher who only knows I was assaulted but no details. I've decided not to talk about it with others because I feel so annoying.

but you are not being annoying at all, i totally understand and I hope you find people to talk to that truly listen to you and that they don't make you feel that you are annoying them.

I know exactly how you feel!!! I feel the exact same way.... Its not your fault nor theirs its just the way it is... Its hard to understand and listen to if you yourself havent been through a similar similar event. I know its not the same but i am here for you if you want to talk!!
~Hugs~

I understand. It seems like everyone "wants" to help, as long as it's not inconvient to them. It sucks, but if you haven't been there you can't understand. I finally had to stop expecting most of my friends to get it. Don't worry though, you have all of us!