Psoriasis has stolen what little self esteem I had. Whoever said they should start a dating service on here was right on, I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone who didn't have it. they would never understand. It gets lonely.

I understand what everyone is saying, due to other issues I have, a long term relationship has never even been a consideration. I hate my skin, my body and myself to much to be able to let go enough to trust someone get close to me physically and emotionally. I have had periods of time when my psoriasis would go into remission and I would feel like I could at least have sex without the stigma of someone thinking they are going to catch something. I remember this one time I only had one little spot the size of a dime on my lower abdomen and this guy I was with was "whats that?" like it was a HUGE patch of scales or something. He did not know I had psoriasis and probably wouldn't have known what it is was anyway so I just told him it was a rash to some new soap. Needless to say it was the last time I saw him. My choice. I think the general public can be very insensative to our plight anyway. I work in a office enviorment where I am exposed to strangers all day and some of these people will ask me "ohhhhh! what is wrong with your skin?" or "were you burned?" or" is it contagious?" as they draw back. Needless to say I always wear long sleeves and pants so I will not have to deal with this. But I have recently started getting it on my hands and there is no covering it. Sorry to rant and rave like this but after 32 years with this I am so tired of the whole thing and really just want to wake up and find it gone. Don't we all though. To answer your question, have not been in remission in 10 years and have not dated in 10 years.

Revisiting this topic, I just want to add hoe de-humanized psoriasis has made me feel. I don't feel femanine or womanly. I feel like a sexless creature. I feel robbed of a sex life and love life. I hate it so much.

I'm so sorry that so many others are going through this.

I dated guys who didn't have it, and they treated me like a second class citizen, or, it didn't bother them. I have moderate psrs, it is small patches everywere, looks like someone burned me with a hot poker. I'm up front, tell them on like, the second date, explain what Psrs is, and they nod. I am now dating a guy that has it, I got tired of explaining, and tired of guys feeling sorry for me or making comments that were hurtful.
Trouble is, what if I end up marrying the guy with Psrs? Its so genetic that we would have to adopt, for sure. No way would I purposely put a kid through what I've been through.
I think that when The RIGHT person comes along it won't matter to them. Go on, live your life.

it is hard dating with psoriasis. it's an everyday struggle and fear that never leaves me. The man i'm with has been with me for over a year. He's seen lil flare ups around me eyes, arms, back and scalp. The problem i'm facing now is the fact that i get psoriasis at time in a very personal area...need i say more. So my question is how do u tell someone ur dating about that?? i can barely handle it myself and not get grossed out by the idea.....how can i expect him to understand and be ok with it. Any one got any advice i could really use some!!!

Just wanted to put in my 2 cents...I dated and fell in love with a man who had HORRIBLE acne and acne scars. But I am telling u, I just never saw it. I just saw his goodness. He was always ashamed of it.

Hi im dani, i just found out i had psoriasis, and just started seeing someone... and honestly i feel like he will leave me soon based on the fact that i have psoriasis over 90% of my body, and the few places it went away, it left scares that are white... my skin naturally is beautiful, dark and very soft... but i dont know how to explaine it to ppl.... so i understand exactly what you are saying

i understand what your going through, every time i go out i feel ugly because i have to cover all ov my body and feel like everyone is looking at me, i am terrified ov telling people because i think there reaction would be to say eww and that it self makes me feel really shit and disgusting. i wish i had the confidence to just say SO WHAT i've got a skin problem....

It is really hard to date. It's awkward, and people usually think it's contageous.

When i first started dating my boyfriend, I had a flare up and it almost look like I had bald spots, my scalp was so dry. One day, he asked me about it and I told him. He has Cystic Fibrosis, so he also has an unattractive disease. Granted, his is much more of a big deal than mine, but still, when I told him, he was cool about it. I have it mostly on my scalp, but during flare ups, it spreads. He'll help me get loose flakes from my hair, and helps me with dr appts and stays on top of treatments. My advice is to just be patient and a good person will come along and be understanding

i'm looking for a nice woman that likes hoovering

Okay here is a good example why I don't try to do relationships with my psoriasis. I met a guy online, I told him about my mental issues, Bipolar, Bordeline Personality Disorder, PTSD and Cronic depression, he was very supportive and said we could work through these. I couldn't bring up the psoriasis because its like a dirty little secret to me with the way people have treated me in the past. So all is well til he starts wanting current pictures, I had sent him ones from about a year ago when my Psoriasis was not to bad and was able to hide it easily. Then he tells me yesterday he wants to fly out next week to meet, also he has already proposed to me and declared his love no matter what. I tried to put him off I had been hoping to get on Humira and get cleared up before this so I could work into it slowly. Okay that may sound deceptive to some people and I am sorry but I am so lonley and I found myself so attracted to him as far as personality and all of our thinking just clicked I was so afraid. Well after trying to put him off as the insurance company denied my approval for the Humira. I finally broke down tonight and told him about it. Do you wanna know what his response was? First question, "so does that mean you shed skin like a snake?", second question after I send him to a website to read and look at pictures of people with psoriasis, it "When will it be gone?" WTH!! I tell him there is no cure and I don't know when I will go into remission again if ever. No response from him, we were IMimg each other, then he says oh I have to go help my son with his homework ttyl, and disconnects. He is a widower with a 13yo son. So I guess that says it all huh? He was able to overlook 4 extreme mental conditions but couldn't overlook something that was physically unattractive, so I really know how to pick them. I should have known better but I wanted it to work out so much because I do have such strong feelings for him. But I was delusional to ever think anyone would be able to accept me and my ugly nasty skin. I hate my psoriasis and what it has done to me and the way it makes me feel about myself.

I am divorced after a 16 year marriage. The stress of the divorce and having to stop my Embrel injection has caused a mild flare up, but even with a mild flare up it is difficult to enter the dating scene again. It never bothered me before, but it is ugly and embaressing to explain. For the first time it has caused spots to appear on my face and arms and I have become a hermit and not getting enough sunshine and vitamin D as a result. I believe we need a dating sight for suffers of psoriasis so people can meet and understand each other needs; plus, it is difficult to treat yourself on the back with topical ointments. You need someone to help in the treatment daily.

Hi it seems to be a vicious circle of stress psoriasis happy unhappy stress psoriasis. I hide my legs and arms and hate the summertime. even when the weather gets better its seems to be worse. Its actually better at times in the winter. Any way I am alone and in my fifties having been married twice. I am often reluctant to go out unless fully coverd up which limits ones clothing options. Its odd as my best frienship relationship never commented or seemd bothered by my psorasis. Its my supposed work collegaues friends and children who notice and its what they say that make me feel really depressed. I know its there and to have it pointed out makes me so miserable.
It is a big romance killer and makes me very anxious if I like somone. I find myself paying extra attention to it using the cream or my remdies more often. This doesnt help as it highlights the fact my skin is bad. Its the awareness things and if you can become happy enough within somones company it fades away into the back of the mind, thus becoming lessimportant and manageable.
I have found some lovely boyfriends who dont seem to notice my blemished skin but if I mention it in writing on emails or msn it just isnt accepted it scares people you may have chatted to for years. I realise its best just not to mention it and if a relationship arises see what happens then. If they are decent and like you then you have to be one step towards finding a companion who likes you for other reasons than a perfect skin.

hi! im new here - i joined just to be able to write in this thread. i wish i had some words of wisdom to offer, but i find myslef in the same boat just now.
i havent dated for a long time; ive had boyfriends for a while. now single, i have started a bunch of online profiles, and thought it isnt a good idea to write about psoriasis initially. but then, i think - how, now that it is winter and it isnt immediately obvious since arms and legs are covered, it should be brought up? i really have never dealt with being a person with psoriasis, just mostly didnt hide it but also never spoke about it unless questioned nicely.
ANYway, what would you think about being totally humorous and upfront on an online profile, saying something like - "i have bits and pieces of psoriasis here and there, so you would need to be the kind of easygoing person who can deal - or just not even pay attention :) - with that."
to be honest, i dont know if i could actually write that. but why souldnt we try to weed out in advance the guys who would be freaked out and NOT WORTH OUR TIME bothering with them to begin with?
what do you think?

When I first started dating my husband. I was scared to death to tell him. It was so hard I couldn't just come out and say something. So time came to where I said this was it I need to tell him. So I'll never forget that day. We were outside by his car and I said "Brian I need to tell you something". He asked me What is it??? It was so hard for me to say that he thought I had some deadly disease like aids. When I finally said I have psoriasis. He quickly said...."Is that all!!!" Found out he has had his fair share of skin problems. Even though now I still cringed when people ask and stare and say What's that!!! But it is more common than I like to realize.