Does anyone have any suggestions to make sex less painful? Too much info for some is following.

I've discovered lube helps the initial pain of penetration. But its not perfect. Tonight felt like my husband had something sharp on him! And then there's the body pains. Spreading my legs pulls things in my inner thighs and makes my pelvis hurt in the center. Having my legs up against my chest makes it very difficult to breathe. The sides of my torso have been really tender and sore lately, and lying on my side doesn't work cuz cocking my hips so our parts line up right gives me a cramp in my side almost instantly. We tried him lying on his side with me on my back and my legs draped over him, but that ended up crowding my uterus somehow, making it too painful too.

My libido has been zero, but I've been feeling so guilty about it. Tonight was so miserable that even he didn't enjoy it at all, it was 'purely biological', like animals with no emotion to it at all. Its probably been a month or more, too. Last night we tried, but finding a comfortable position was too much for him. I wish I could do something to help, but I'm running out of ideas.

Is there anything I can do to help the body pain issues? Anything I can do to help any of it? If was horny, I probably wouldn't let the pain get in the way. If it didn't hurt, I'd probably want to do it more. I hate lying there and whimpering and wincing and scowling. It has to make it so unpleasant for him.