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Does anyone have any suggestions to make sex less painful? Too much info for some is following.
I've discovered lube helps the initial pain of penetration. But its not perfect. Tonight felt like my husband had something sharp on him! And then there's the body pains. Spreading my legs pulls things in my inner thighs and makes my pelvis hurt in the center. Having my legs up against my chest makes it very difficult to breathe. The sides of my torso have been really tender and sore lately, and lying on my side doesn't work cuz cocking my hips so our parts line up right gives me a cramp in my side almost instantly. We tried him lying on his side with me on my back and my legs draped over him, but that ended up crowding my uterus somehow, making it too painful too.
My libido has been zero, but I've been feeling so guilty about it. Tonight was so miserable that even he didn't enjoy it at all, it was 'purely biological', like animals with no emotion to it at all. Its probably been a month or more, too. Last night we tried, but finding a comfortable position was too much for him. I wish I could do something to help, but I'm running out of ideas.
Is there anything I can do to help the body pain issues? Anything I can do to help any of it? If was horny, I probably wouldn't let the pain get in the way. If it didn't hurt, I'd probably want to do it more. I hate lying there and whimpering and wincing and scowling. It has to make it so unpleasant for him.
I've discovered lube helps the initial pain of penetration. But its not perfect. Tonight felt like my husband had something sharp on him! And then there's the body pains. Spreading my legs pulls things in my inner thighs and makes my pelvis hurt in the center. Having my legs up against my chest makes it very difficult to breathe. The sides of my torso have been really tender and sore lately, and lying on my side doesn't work cuz cocking my hips so our parts line up right gives me a cramp in my side almost instantly. We tried him lying on his side with me on my back and my legs draped over him, but that ended up crowding my uterus somehow, making it too painful too.
My libido has been zero, but I've been feeling so guilty about it. Tonight was so miserable that even he didn't enjoy it at all, it was 'purely biological', like animals with no emotion to it at all. Its probably been a month or more, too. Last night we tried, but finding a comfortable position was too much for him. I wish I could do something to help, but I'm running out of ideas.
Is there anything I can do to help the body pain issues? Anything I can do to help any of it? If was horny, I probably wouldn't let the pain get in the way. If it didn't hurt, I'd probably want to do it more. I hate lying there and whimpering and wincing and scowling. It has to make it so unpleasant for him.
deleted_user
Only thing I can suggest is if he does it from the back. How far along are you? From I was like 5 months, I couldn't lay on my back. I'm not horny at all. I have no desire to have sex, but when I do it is because I know that he really wants to. I don't enjoy sex at all anymore. I just do it to do it, I don't get anything from it. I'm sorry sweetie, that is the only thing that I can suggest. That is the only way that we do it. Good thing it is his favorite position.
deleted_user
I love how we can talk about just about anything on this board without feeling embarrassed. I'm actually not far enough along to have the same issues, but I do have a very low libido right now, and am feeling guilty about it. Have you considered giving him a blow job or even a hand job? These are things that are just as intimate, but don't hurt you, especially if you get him to lie on his back. As soon as I get over this nausea, I plan to surprise my hubby this way. It's not always the best plan, but it might be good in the long run. Then your hubby feels loved and you don't have to get hurt in the process. Just a thought. ~hugs~
Tray34
Have you tried it from behind or you lay on your back (put some pillows under your bootie) and have him stand up(you have to be at the edge of the bed)..I was having problems a while back and alot of the girls gave me really good advice..It is aggravating but once you find a good position it will be ok..
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