Pregnancy Support Group
Welcome to the waiting room for anticipating moms and dads. Whether you're expecting your first or a new little brother or sister, meet other parents in this community who are also looking forward to a new addition to the family.
I know that having second thoughts about motherhood is completely normal. How do you end up calming your mind about your fears and worries?
I've been wanting a baby for forever, and now I'll finally get one. Hearing the heartbeat yesterday kind of made it feel more real, and having these little flickers of 'maybe that was the baby!' movement, makes me realize with a scary sort of frankness that I'm going to be responsible for another PERSON. Its like the ultimate pet. *L* But the 'pet' grows up and doesn't need you anymore and goes out into the world to be a contributing member of society. Having this 'pet' will make a difference in the world! Am I ready for it? It brings up all kinds of misgivings about my abilities and desires. What if I get sick of being a mom? What if I make the same mistakes my mom did with me? What if my child ends up being a bad person?
*LOL* Typing these thoughts out and seeing them in black and white kind of makes them seem silly. I suppose that's a good thing and is one step in getting ready to be a mom. What are some things you do to ease your mind?
I've been wanting a baby for forever, and now I'll finally get one. Hearing the heartbeat yesterday kind of made it feel more real, and having these little flickers of 'maybe that was the baby!' movement, makes me realize with a scary sort of frankness that I'm going to be responsible for another PERSON. Its like the ultimate pet. *L* But the 'pet' grows up and doesn't need you anymore and goes out into the world to be a contributing member of society. Having this 'pet' will make a difference in the world! Am I ready for it? It brings up all kinds of misgivings about my abilities and desires. What if I get sick of being a mom? What if I make the same mistakes my mom did with me? What if my child ends up being a bad person?
*LOL* Typing these thoughts out and seeing them in black and white kind of makes them seem silly. I suppose that's a good thing and is one step in getting ready to be a mom. What are some things you do to ease your mind?
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I guess, talking about them, and being able to REALIZE they're silly!! there's a reason God chose women to be the givers of life, not only physically, but emotionally, we are all capable of being good mummy's, you're going to do great don't even think twice about it! Trust your instincts and trust in prayer, you'll be a great mum i know it :) Love always! xox
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I've decided that these worries (I'm having the same ones) are natures way of preparing me for the worst possible scenarios...I get to play them out in my mind, and decide how I will deal with them if they should ever actually arise. Once I'm "prepared", I feel comfortable letting them go, and getting back to feeling excited. I've also talked about them with my husband some; he helps me to stay grounded in reality when they are rediculous, and to come up with plans and ideas when they are legitimate...The fact that you have concerns, means you will be a great mom...I know it!
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
