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Thought I would shead some light on a little fustration on something we can all relate to. When people don't ask but always stare..could she be pregnant?
Ive always made it a rule of thumb not to assume a lady is pregnant unless I see a baby emerging right then and there. Why? You never know when you could be wrong.
For example, one time I went with a heavily pregnant friend to Starbucks. The barista asked my friend if she was pregnant. No, I said, sarcastically. It's just a really big tumor.
I had a stomach tumor once that made me look six months pregnant, she retorted, effectively ruining my joke.
Open mouth, insert foot.
So, it shouldnt have been a surprise to me that some people wouldnt acknowledge my pregnancy to me. It seems like theyd go out of their way to have to ask if I was pregnant.
Would you like some wine to start your meal, the waiter would ask.
Is there anything I can help you find, asked the Victorias Secret saleswoman.
Prenatal massage? Youre pregnant? asked the masseuse.
No, its just a tumor but I like to pretend its my baby, I felt like snarking back.
Thats why there is such an industry for those Baby! t-shirts. Getting the is she or isnt she looks is tiring. Sometimes you just want to look at someone and say Yes, Im knocked up. What are you going to do about it?
Does anyone else feel this way because I'm getting so sick of people wondering if I'm just a big pig or not.
Ive always made it a rule of thumb not to assume a lady is pregnant unless I see a baby emerging right then and there. Why? You never know when you could be wrong.
For example, one time I went with a heavily pregnant friend to Starbucks. The barista asked my friend if she was pregnant. No, I said, sarcastically. It's just a really big tumor.
I had a stomach tumor once that made me look six months pregnant, she retorted, effectively ruining my joke.
Open mouth, insert foot.
So, it shouldnt have been a surprise to me that some people wouldnt acknowledge my pregnancy to me. It seems like theyd go out of their way to have to ask if I was pregnant.
Would you like some wine to start your meal, the waiter would ask.
Is there anything I can help you find, asked the Victorias Secret saleswoman.
Prenatal massage? Youre pregnant? asked the masseuse.
No, its just a tumor but I like to pretend its my baby, I felt like snarking back.
Thats why there is such an industry for those Baby! t-shirts. Getting the is she or isnt she looks is tiring. Sometimes you just want to look at someone and say Yes, Im knocked up. What are you going to do about it?
Does anyone else feel this way because I'm getting so sick of people wondering if I'm just a big pig or not.
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I've seen friends who weren't pregnant have to answer the "When are you due?" question, and it's so awful. They are so hurt and embarrassed. The common advice now (I have read it in 2 magazines recently) is that you should never make assumptions, even if it seems obvious. I think people who seem to ignore the obvious belly are honestly trying to avoid any embarrassing situation.
As for people who stare: when I was trying to get pregnant, I stared at everyone with a belly. I was so obsessed that I couldn't help it.
I am sure that no one thinks you're a big pig. They just don't want to make a mistake.
I'm still paranoid that I just look fat instead of pregnant, even though my belly is getting rounder and sticking out farther. I have a dent in my circumference right at belly button level, so I'm afraid my belly looks like 2 giant rolls that are almost one instead of a roundy baby belly, even though its just sticking out in front instead of evenly around my whole body.
I haven't noticed obvious staring, but I'm still paranoid about how I look. I've read that sometimes standing in an obviously pregnant pose helps. Like holding your belly a certain way or putting your hands at your back or something. Sometimes I think that I look more pregnant and less fat if I put my hands at my 'waist' (or what was my waist, but is still slightly smaller than the rest of my belly) so the overall profile looks more evenly round.
Of course, on the other hand, I don't wanna be asked if I am pregnant when I am just fat. I think my next pregnancy I am gonna get a shirt that says "pregnant" right across the front LOL no, but maybe make my own to prove my point of pregnancy. :D