Major stress isn't good for the baby. Do you dread going home because of the situation? Does is make you sick when certain people come over to the house. This type of stress is what is bad for the baby. I am not going to say "just blow it off and forget what they say" because that is hard to do and even if you dont let it get to you it still does in some way. Have you spoke to your husband about it? How can his family let that go on? Find awayto relax when these people come over, make sure your husband is standing up for you. Maybe you have to jsut stay in your room (which is sad that in your home you have to do that) but dont put yourself in the postion where these horrible can affect your day. Good Luck ..

Thanks for the advice. Yes I absolutely get sick when this girl comes over. For awhile she wasnt allowed over and today she came back over for the first time and my husband blew his top. He told his brother (its his friend) that she better apologize. She never did. My husband's mom is the kind of woman that forgives everyone over and over and over. I used to just stay in my room but that doesnt work anymore. Just knowing shes here makes me sick. I'm trying everything in my power to relax as much as possible though. Once again thanks for the advice.

Yeah, if the stress is physically affecting you, its not very good for the baby. Its good to hear that your husband is on your side, hopefully he can keep everyone in line. Keep talking to him about it. A few coping skills that I've learned are to pretend I'm a duck and let stuff roll off my back like water rolls off a duck. Its kind of vague, and can be tough to do at times. Another thing that was really helpful for me last week when I almost had an anxiety attack was to focus on exactly what was happening to my body at that very moment. I was lying in bed trying to fall asleep, so I thought about how the blankets felt on my feet, and how this texture was different than the other, how my hair felt on my cheek compared to the pillowcase, etc etc down to every little detail I could notice over my entire body. I also then turned my attention to what I could hear. If there are people over that you don't like, that one might not be the wisest to try cuz you'd probably end up listening to conversations or something. I found that this little trick really helped me turn off the worrying thoughts in my head and it helped me relax too. I have fifty million other ideas, if you want more, message me!

Your mom is right about the baby feeling your stress. Anytime you are stressed you baby can get that way too. I am a big time stresser and this has been hard for me not to stress. I think a little stress is common with anyone, but too much is what you need to worry about. That is also like if you are sick or low on energy...your baby can pick that up and be less active. or vice versa. I don't have any good suggestions for ignoring this though because I have the same problem...I let stuff get to me too easily. Just try your best to ignore it and let it go in one ear and out the other. Good luck =D

That girl sounds like the horrible jealous type! Its hard to recommend a way to not let these things get to you, as they most probably will..how could they not? especially as everything gets to us so much more when we're pregnant. Maybe try something like yoga to help you relax and centre yourself when you're feeling stressed out? (you can get special yoga dvd's for pregnant women, so you can do it whenever you feel the need, and in the quit and comfort of your own home)

Stress isn't good for anyone... bad for the mother, bad for the baby. Short of moving out and getting your own place where rude people would be banned... I would suggest trying to be out of the house as much as possible (if it stresses you out to be there), try getting headphones and listening to music so you won't have to listen to the hurtful and rude things people say and maybe try meditation or yoga... something to focus your breathing and alleviate your stress.

Because my hormones are raging right now, I think I might have had to click on the girl if she made a rude remark to me like that. Do not let stupid shit get the best of you. Your mom is right, stress is not good for the baby. When you are in distress, so is the baby. That's why I don't let negative shit stress me the hell out. I let whatever people have to say negative about me and my pregnancy, roll off the back of me like running water.

Want to knwo about stress! When i was pregnant with my first i lost my mum the year before and had just come out of a very stressfull 2 year relationship. I was young and what helped me was listening to relaxation tapes. I got my ones from my councillor but you can get them from WWW.LOUISELHAY.COM. It is worded tapes she talks you through stuff. Oh and why don't you let this b---- have a piece of your mind she sounds like a very disrespectfull person. At least you have your partner on your side now this helps. Oh you could try and grin every time you see her and smile this will wind her up. Or hopefully she will stop comming round. I have a 7 year old who is very slow at doing anythng it takes her 2 and a half hours to get ready for bed and i have a 12 year old who has become a compulsive lier. Consider yourelf lucky. she is probaby jelouse of you in some way.