OK so today I'm feeling bummed out... Kyle(my husband) started the Fire Academy this past week. Which is a wonderful thing. He has class only Tues. and Sats... Not so bad....right? Well he normally gets up to get ready for work about 5:45 am, he's gone by 6:30 Mon- Friday... Most days he is home by 3 ish some days earlier .... some days later. With class Tuesday nights he pretty much gets home eats and leaves to be there from 6pm to 11pm or later . Of course, by the time he gets home, he showers and crashes.... I can't blame him.... he has to be back up by 5;45 the next morning. Well so far this week on the non-school nights all he can do is study a few hours a night. So getting home 3 or 4ish he sit's down studys right up until til I tell him dinner is ready ... he breaks from studing for 30-45 mins to eat then right back to studing until bout' 8 ish ... When he's done with all that he really tries to speand some time with me but we sit on the couch for 30 mins- an hour if I'm lucky because usually by 9 pm he's ready to shower and get ready for bed.. For class on Sats. he is up by 6:45 and has class from 8am to 7pm.. HE'S GONE ALL DAY LONG. and I'm sure he's just going to want to relax when he gets home... but I'll be itching to get out with him. Our only day together now is Sunday which for now is football day and the day that he will have to do stuff around the house like mow the lawn, and edge it finish getting the nursery ready. And again, I'm sure the last thing on his mind on his only day off will be to make plans.... the way he is, he prefers to stay home... Which is fine most of the time ... But now I'm worried... When he left for school this morning I felt really lonely and started to cry, I don't want to lose our closeness because he's overworked and over schooled. I told him as he left, " I'm gonna miss you" and he replyed "me too baby, you will be ok ". But I have this overwhelming sadness, that he is gone.. I'm sure once he gets the hang of things, school wont take up so much time, but I want him to do well and study hard... My biggest concern now is what will it be like when the baby comes in DEC. he will still have 5 months of school left.. Will I be on my own? I know he will help when he is here, but he still needs times to study.... AND WE WILL NEED TIME AS HUSBAND AND WIFE!!! OH !!! here's the kicker on his first day of class he asked the instructor what the policy is on absenses and explained he's expecting his first baby in Dec. The instructor told him "4+ tardys your gone... you can miss 4 classes but none that are mandatory if you miss a mandatory class your gone... I don't care what your reason or how good a student you are, I don't care if you mother dies, If you're in a wreck and lying in the road half alive , if your wife is in labor.. if your not here... say Bye -Bye....I'll give you my emergency contact # but don't call me, I don't want to hear it." These are what kyle say's were his exact words... I CAN NOT BELIVE THAT!!!!! HOW INSENSITIVE. Kyle has several "mandatory" classes in the weeks surrounding my due date. and of course, he tells me if I go in to labor there is no way he is going to class, that he would not miss the birth of our son for anything... so he would just be kicked out. I don't want him to get kicked out.... but I need him at the birth... and at the same time I know he wants to be there but I worry that he may resent it, if he did get kicked out.. OH I don't know what to do.. what you you guys think, anyone been through some thing similar?
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