Hi, I am just looking for anyone out there that has been in my situation or has any advice for me. My husband and I have been married since April 2005, however seperated last year. We since tried to work on things around November last year and even spent Christmas holidays away with friends. (this is when the baby was conceived!) After New Years had come and gone things didn't go as planned and we still decided to stay apart. My husband moved to another state and was trying out a different job when I informed him I was pregnant. He does not believe the baby is his. After months of emotional ups and downs we decided divorce was the only option. All the papers were drawn up when we both couldn't sign them. We still both love eachother and wanted it to work, but our relationship had caused us both so much pain. So after days and nights of long discussions we decided to try again. We are still not living together, however trying hard to start from scratch....My problem now at 24 weeks pregnant is that my husband has distanced himself from the pregnancy, he avoids the topic. I asked him if he liked a name for the baby and his response was "you choose"...I asked him if he still believed the baby wasn't his and he said "we will have to do a test once the baby is here"...I said how can you be with me when you dont believe I am carrying your child...he said "because I love you"...now I know this is lovely for him to support me when he has these doubts, but for me, I am left thinking will he even be there at the birth? What will her surname be on the birth certificate? The whole birthig experience is going to be tainted on the fact he doesn't believe me. I have looked around online regarding paternity and it looks like I am too far pregnant to get any DNA testing done now. So it is going to have wait til after she is here, and I am just scared to do it alone. Has anyone been through anything like this or have any advice for me???
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