Lately my husband wants to go out to bars and hang out with friends. Usually i dont have a problem with this but for the 4th of july i just wanted to go with him to hang out with everyone, but his friends didnt want me there. My husband said its cause its not right to bring a pregnant lady to a bar. i instantly started crying because i feel like he doesnt want me around, but then he finally opened up and told me his friends dont want me there because they dont like me. they think im a controlling bitch who has him on a short leash. he keeps telling them thats not it, that im a good wife, but he has different priorities, he has a family style life and doesnt want to go out n drink all the time, he wants to go home n spend time with his wife. but none of them belive him, and now their girlfriends are threatening to come to my house and beat me up, i havent done anything to any of these people, i dont even associate with them, i keep to myself. im not originally from nh so i dont know many ppl at all. but all his friends hate me, and now they come to my house at 1:30 in the morning and pound on my windows and doors till he comes out side, and he told them if they dont leave that i'll call the cops. i just dont get it, ive always been nice to these people despite what they say about me, i gave my husband my van to get to work and he picks up all his friends to take them to work, i have no problem with that, but when they start telling him to call me a fucking bitch and to get off his ass, is when the niceness stops. i dont want to tell him to cut these people out of his life, but i cant have all this stress and drama in mine. I told him last night i wanted a trial separation, which kills me cause the baby will be here in 4 months, and he went crazy, i tried to leave the room and he threw me on the bed, as a result i have a huge bruise covering my arm. he felt extreamly horrible about it, but it came down to its either his family or his friends, because if they have that big of an influence on his life then i dont need to be around. i kind of felt like they wanted to split us up, but i defiantly know for sure now that they do. im so hurt and upset by all of this. apparently his friends have been saying things like this about me for months, but i was walking around blind and being so nice to everyone, really trying hard to be friendly, because in the past i knew they talked shit about me and well to my new knowledge they never stopped. Im under alot of stress and im so hurt, im even more upset that all this is having a major stress effect on the baby.i know i cant be with him if he wants to go on associating with these people. I just really dont know what to do...
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