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i just took a pregnancy test that came clear as a bell, im pregnant. i have had false positives in the past so i plan to go buy a couple more tests... however, i feel very scared at the moment!
my husband and i have been married 10 months and together almost 7 years. i know our relationship is a solid one and i am not concerned having a baby will ruin our early years of being in the same home. however, i always hear from my mother that we need to wait at least three years before we have kids...she gets sooo mad when we would talk about MAYBE getting pregnant next fall or the following spring. she always talks about how my life will pretty much be over and i wont be anything but a mom...
i am also scared because my husband and i just moved to nashville and we are living in my parents house while house and job hunting. we both have part-time jobs and will be fine financially...but im scared about our money issues if we do indeed find a house and then a few months later out comes a baby!
i always thought i would have no fears when i first found out i was pregnant... we werent trying to get pregnant we just left it in Gods hands because we dont believe in the pill and we had problems with other forms of birth control.
i feel confused... and whats worse is my husband is at work recording a record so i cant call him... i dont want to tell anyone else before i tell him though...
will this feeling get better?
my husband and i have been married 10 months and together almost 7 years. i know our relationship is a solid one and i am not concerned having a baby will ruin our early years of being in the same home. however, i always hear from my mother that we need to wait at least three years before we have kids...she gets sooo mad when we would talk about MAYBE getting pregnant next fall or the following spring. she always talks about how my life will pretty much be over and i wont be anything but a mom...
i am also scared because my husband and i just moved to nashville and we are living in my parents house while house and job hunting. we both have part-time jobs and will be fine financially...but im scared about our money issues if we do indeed find a house and then a few months later out comes a baby!
i always thought i would have no fears when i first found out i was pregnant... we werent trying to get pregnant we just left it in Gods hands because we dont believe in the pill and we had problems with other forms of birth control.
i feel confused... and whats worse is my husband is at work recording a record so i cant call him... i dont want to tell anyone else before i tell him though...
will this feeling get better?

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Well First of all Congratulations! The stresses come and go through out the pregnancy, but I am sure you guys will be just fine. This is you and your husbands choice, not your mom's, and if she is that concerned about what's best for you I am sure that she will support you guys. I don't think there is anyone that doesn't stress about finances when they find out they are pregnant...I know I have, but I've learved over the years that things always have a way of working themselfs out and it is never my worrying that fixes it. I hope you are able to share with your husband soon. Are you not able to call him at all? I'm sure this is one of those things where he would like to know...even if you call and leave a message for him to call you as soon as he can, but if you have to wait till he gets home, then that will just build the excitement. You sound like you guys have a wonderful foundation and will do great as parents. Someone once told me that if you wait until you're ready to have kids, you never will. No one ever has EVERYTHING, least of all money, completely in order when they have their first child. You will do fine. Congrats again!

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i totally understand where you are coming from with all this. the first thing you gotta do is take a deep breath! alot of people told me and my husband to enjoy life as a married couple before we got pregnant, and we had only been married just over a year when i got pregnant. [we went on our belated honeymoon :P haha] your life wont be over, it will just include another person in it besides you hubby. thats the way i look at it. as far as money goes, it falls into place as long as your good about how you spend it. and you guys will find a house of you own soon enough, this stuff takes time but it all works out in the end, you really dont have to worry about buying things for the baby because i know when i fist found out i was pregnant i was like oh my goodness! how am i gonna do this? and everyone seems to know someone who just had a baby so you get tons and tons of hand-me-downs and tons and tons of new things too. my husbands cousin had given me a practically new stroller carseat pack and play and changing table. and my husbands grandma bought us a crib and a vast majority of my babies clothes nad my mom bought me a swing and tons of clothes and everthing else was bought or given to me at my baby shower, i dont have to buy a thing. i guess what im getting at is everything will be okay! so have not worries. you baby will be taken care of, even if you mom doesnt really like teh idea at first i will grow on her when she sees your belly start to swell and see that first ultrasound picture! i promise you that! i hope all of this helps! good luck and if you need to chat about anything dont be afraid to message me!

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I found out I was pregnant with my son at 19. My mother was the same way...wanted me to wait etc. My son is now 17 and they are very close and she will tell you that she was WRONG!!! She told everybody the day he was born that her life finally began because of him. She loves being a grandmother. Don't let your mother spoil what is obviously wonderful news!!! She will be excited, trust me. Congrats!!

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Congrats!!! Babies are blessings, and blessings come when they are ready. Be it 3 years or 2 months. There are so many things that run through your mind when you find out, but once you really realize you are pregnant and that its ok you feel better about it promise. As for the money part of it, they are spendy little things, but somehow you make it regardless of what situation you are in financially. I myself cut out my daily coffee and at 5+ a day I easily brought in $100 a month, that makes up for all the diapers Im going through now. CONGRATUALTIONS! enjoy your time being pregnant, and enjoy this time with your husband.
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