Hi ladies, I REALLY could use some advice or a shoulder here:( .....My last post was called How to Deal with It, and I received some very good advice from you guys,,,,,,,,,but SO MUCH has changed since that post........and because of it I AM JUST DYING INSIDE:( ........Well right after the post, I started to bleed, so I went to my Dr who immeadiately sent me to the hospital as I was miscarrying the baby ;( and had to have an emergency D&C, as I was bleeding terribly, and I asked the Dr if we could just let it happen "naturally" and she said No, because of all that my body had recently gone through.....all the terrible tests and procedures and meds I had taken that I went through for the diagnoses of MS, My immune system is really shot and in addition I apparently don't clot like the "average" person, so long of the short, without the immeadiate D& C I would of quote, bleed to death:( .......So, the whole time Im at the hospital getting ready for this procedure, I had been trying and trying to get ahold of the guy that I was with( the father of the baby), telling him whats going on, and If he was going to come down to the hospital (as I thought he should be....being the father and all)...........and the long of the short.....NOPE:( He never called or even came down to see how I was doing..........in fact the next day when I felt better from the effects of the surgury, I sent him a message to ask why he had'nt come down........and he told me he had his "Priorties" and went to a football game with his sons from another lady he was with at one point!!!!! So, I told him, let me see if I got this straight!!!!!!!! As I lay in a hospital having YOUR child scraped out of me, your at a damn football game??!! His response was to send me a text later that day to tell me that he does;nt give a damn about me or that "thing" as he called it, in me. and that he has a New girlfriend and not to contact him anymore!!! When I tried to to discuss at least the ENORMOUS hospital bill, he called the police on me and said I was harrassing him! I sent him 2 text messages regarding it!!!! ............Now to make matters even worse, I have been COMPLETELY shunned from my Mean Spirited Mother who told me I am nothing but a DISGRACE AND EMBARRASSMENT because I had gotten pregnant (even if it was because the condom we used did'nt work), to her it does'nt matter, Im still a Disgrace and Worthless.........So my question is how in HELL DO YA DEAL with the sheer pain of losing a baby,....being told your a Disgrace, and not having anyone to talk to about the pain of losing the baby and the isolation........I tried to tell her.......this was still the dealth of a baby...and I am not a disgrace.........but to no avail........she wont' even speak to me, even though we live right next door to each other........So, I guess bottom line is--------I COULD REALLY use some help/advice to get over all of this--------cuz right now Im just dying inside, not being able to talk cry or whatever.............thanks ladies:)
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