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Fear of a miscarriage

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I am about 8 weeks (having an ultrasound Monday to pinpoint my exact due date), and am scared to death of having a miscarriage. This is my first pregnancy, I obviously don't drink or smoke and have been doing everything by the book. Does anyone else have this fear looming over them? I just think in my head that I've wanted this for so long it would be "just my luck" that it didn't work out. How do you keep your mind off of this terrible thought?? Everything time I go to the bathroom I'm petrified that I'll find something...I had a quantitative blood test done on Thursday and all my levels were ok...this is just a terrible feeling!!!!!
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I felt the same way you do.but if your levels are good and you are not bleeding don't worry.think about how big and strong your baby is going to be.Think more positive and your thoughts of losing the baby will disapear.god bless you and your little one..if you need to talk I am here...Michelle
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I feel the same way. I have nightmares about it. It really scares me. I had a miscarriage almost 2 years ago. ever since then I felt like a part of me was missing and I been wishing for this also. I just recently found out I am pregnant. I just think about the baby. Think about how strong and smart and cute she/he will be. I try not to think of the bad things. Think positive. I'm sure things will be ok. Here if you want to talk.
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had a miscarriage 5 months ago and you are 6 wks shy of bieng out of the woods. if you seen the babys heartbeat on ultrasound you have a 95% chance of carrying to term. this is what my doc told me he seen a heartbeat to relax.

i looked at it god when give me one when im supposed to have one. relax.
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I have had a miscarriage and I am now 5 weeks and every time I go to the bathroom I almost expect to see blood.. I hate this feeling.. But I just try to stay focused on being healthy
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Hi Heather,
You are almost to twelve. If you have made it this far I think you're doing great. Most of the statistics prove that it's before 8 weeks. You got it made my friend. It will be ok. Just keep your mind on other things like shopping for this little one because you know that every second of the day belongs to your baby in your belly as mine does. You are blessed I know it.
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I understand exactly how you feel... I have felt from the start that something bad was going to happen.. I am at 18 weeks now and still I am afraid...I think it's a normal feeling...although an awful one... to work so hard at finally getting here I think it's hard to believe it's real....hopefully once I feel her move I will start to relax a bit. Good luck!
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I was totally paranoid for my whole first trimester. Now I am 21 weeks and I feel guilty for wasting the first third of my pregnancy sitting and fretting all the time. Things almost always work out and the majority of pregnancies are healthy. Doesn't relieve the fear though, does it? I just tried to focus on doing the best I could by stying healthy, eating well, and reading tons of books.

I have to admit that when I reached the 12 week mark I breathed a huge sigh of relief. Don't worry - the time will fly after that milestone and you'll be thinking that you wished it could slow down for a bit.

Take care.
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Yes it is normal! You will feel better when you get to about 12 or 14 weeks. Which is sort of a safe period which is when the placenta takes over providing the baby nutrition (not you anymore) I hope this has been a little helpfull. Apparently excessive exerise can sometimes bring on a miscariage. I got past 14 weeks then when i got to 20 weeks i was a little anxious about maiking it to 24 weeks which is when the baby can survice out side of the womb. So just relax as you can see this is normal for all mothers. I worried with all my pregnancies.
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I believe the same fear is with everyone. We don't know what is in store for us throughout the whole pregnancy. I have had 3 miscarriages so this pregnancy is extremely worrysome for me. Hang in there, there is no stop to worrying until your baby is safely in your arms.
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I have had 3 mc and I am now pregnant and my levels are great. My only advice to you, becauase I totally know how you feel, is to put your faith in God. and I will tell you someone told me, "You have to love more than you fear." everytime I feel myself getting scared I just repeat to myself that I have to love this baby more than I fear losing it. I hope that helps!
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Hi everyone! I can't believe this post is still going so I thought I'd give you all an update. Since I wrote this, I have seen the heartbeat of our baby and heard the heartbeat on the Doppler at 10 weeks. I'm 12 weeks tomorrow and feeling much better about everything! My little tummy has "popped" out a bit and I'm wearing maternity pants (the mediums fit great so I'll probably need larges by the end!) today for the first time. Thanks for all your words of encouragement - looking at all these suggestions and warm wishes make me feel great! ~Heather
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I feel exactly the same way! every twinge i have i check myself every timei wipe i expect 2 see blood,im absolutely petrified of losing this miracle baby i say miracle because this is my 3rd pregnancy but the only one ive fallen naturally wiv the other 2 i had fertility drugs! so ill say way every one else says try 2 relax nim sure ull be fine (me 2!)
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I have had the exact fear that you have. I have PCOS and with that makes it realy hard to get pregnant and then your chances of miscarriage is increased. However I am now 23 weeks pregnat and I feel my baby moving, this gives me a little more hope. However my husbands cusin was due December 9th and all of a sudden she didn't feel her baby moving. SHe then went to the doctor and found out that she lost her baby. I just keep saying to myself (Lead By Faith). God will take care of my baby. When I remind myself of that I do feel a little more easied.
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