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Hello, I am new to this board so please bear with me :). I am on baby #2 and had found out through a ultrasound that he has a cleft lip. From there its been a whirlwind of going to a specialist to determine if that is in fact true and talking to genetic counslers, switching doctors..and etc! I am unsure if there is a cleft palate and they ofcourse said this will be determined when he is born. I decided against further testing for any further problems, but I am still optimistic that this is a isolated problem.
My family and husband on the other hand, am leaving me to feel that there will be something else wrong. Of course it will be left to find out once the baby is born and to be honest. Being the mother, I will take on whatever I am given and love him no matter what is wrong because hey, thats my son! My husband however, isn't the same case as me and I am left worried about what will happen once he is born because my husband has expressed how he is not welcoming of what the cleft will look like and has said if there is serious disabilities he won't be able to be around the child. Now these words come from someone who is VERY set on the fact of how he stands on the issue. I am worried that I am going to be left to feel alone in the care and I feel overwhelmed at that thought. Any thoughts or advice?
My family and husband on the other hand, am leaving me to feel that there will be something else wrong. Of course it will be left to find out once the baby is born and to be honest. Being the mother, I will take on whatever I am given and love him no matter what is wrong because hey, thats my son! My husband however, isn't the same case as me and I am left worried about what will happen once he is born because my husband has expressed how he is not welcoming of what the cleft will look like and has said if there is serious disabilities he won't be able to be around the child. Now these words come from someone who is VERY set on the fact of how he stands on the issue. I am worried that I am going to be left to feel alone in the care and I feel overwhelmed at that thought. Any thoughts or advice?
suzyhopes
My friend had some scares in her pregnancy with her baby, it may be a downs baby, then it was, it may have heart problems and be special needs. She decided to monitor everything and love that baby no matter what. ^ weeks ago a perfectly healthy baby girl entered the world. All that worrying for nothing. I am sorry your husband is so scared of having an extra challenge, but its something you 2 really need to communicate and share your feelings about, maybe even with a counselor. Good luck and I hope your baby is healthy.
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Welcome to the group and congrats on your pregnancy! I'm sorry things haven't gone as you planned. I don't know much about the problems your baby might have, but I'm a teacher, and I've known several perfectly normal kids who had been born with a cleft palate. It won't be pretty at birth, but it will be totally correctable if that is the only problem. Your husband may have a harder time with it at first than you because they usually don't bond with the baby until after the baby is old enough to interact with them. I'm confident he will change his mind in time, but I know it must be very upsetting to have him saying things about a baby you already love, problems and all. Hang in there, and I hope everything turns out well.
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I was told my baby had no nasal bone at my 11 week nucal scan. I still want it anyway and bones don't grow until around 17 weeks anyway. Oh they also said my baby could have other problems because of my mental health problems so i looked at him and said well my other two kid are fine. If you want it no matte what how can them monitoring you and worrying you help the babies posible physical appearance just eat well, pray and accept it just incase it has got a cleft pallet. I hear that babies who have it find it hard to feed because the roof of their mouth is open so low birthweight to be expected and they dont' do an operation unti the baby is 6 months i think. GOOD LUCK Let us know the outcome.
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Don't worrie. Once your baby is born, you will both love that child so much. My 18 month old daughter was born with cleft lip and pallete. We were worried also. But when we first saw her we just fell in love with her. She had her first surgery at three months old. They closed her lip and some of her nose. At one year, the dr. closed the roof of her mouth. Now, unless I tell people they do not know there was ever anything wrong! Trust me, everything will work out just fine!
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