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Baby Shower Planning??

deleted_user
deleted_user
Ok so I got married and moved away from home. I live about 45 minutes from where I grew up. I have the friends I grew up with and friends I gained after getting married and moving.

I guess my question is: Is it ok to help in the planning of your own shower. I dont have friends that know who to invite. I have good friends from home and good friends from work, but they dont know each other. Do I have to leave this in the hands of my Husband or can I get the ball rolling somehow?

I guess another questions is if its ok for me to start some planning how far should I go? Is this something I can do for myself? Or do I give someone a list of invites and leave it at that??

Thanks for any suggestions!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I gave a list to a friend when she asked. She doesn't know all the people that are coming either. I didn't want to have anyone left out and feel like they were left out on purpose.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, i just okay'd the invitations that my mom made, and gave her a list of who i wanted to invite. she's handling everything else. but not bc i don't want to plan it. she just wants me to show up and have fun. i wouldn't mind helping though. i don't think there's anything wrong with planning your own shower. esp if you're unsure of who would do it for you. i think showers are important to have esp with the cost being way too high to buy all the stuff you need on your own! but we decided to do one big shower, so there will be my entire family in addition to friends and co workers. it's YOUR shower, do what you want!:)
sweetangel
sweetangel
I dont think its bad to help with your own shower. My mom and my SIL did my shower but I pretty much did everything they just helped and paid for it. They asked me about decorations and food and everything. They wanted to the way I wanted it to be but they didnt want me to have to pay for it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you would be fine to help plan your shower (although i think ettiquite ppl would say not but what the H do they know ) =) but it is also an idea to have multiple showers... I will probably have like 4
1) my families church in my hometown with all my hometown friends
2) My extended family in my grandparents hometown (different than my hometown)
3) My DH work
4) Finally my friends in my current town...

I hope this doesn't sound "greedy" I would forgo a couple of these but I feel like I would insult ppl if I did........ and since these locations are so far apart I can't expect everyone to come to 1 shower...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I say - help as little or as much as you and your friends want. It's your uterusu, your shower, and your perogative!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thank you soooo much ladies!! It is nice to hear that so many of you dont think it sounds "bad" for me to help with the planning!!

I was slightly worried how people being invited would take it when they heard I helped plan it. I was worried I would sound greedy.

Thanks again ladies!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
For my shower, after someone volunteered to host, she asked me for a list of names and addresses of people I would like to invite. I also had multiple showers.
N79
N79
My mom, and BFF are doing most of the planning. They ask me questions and I gave a list of people to invite..dont worry about being tacky. I went on the knot.com about my wedding shower..and those people were so nasty to me because I was asking about my own shower...I like things a certain way and it's not like Im out planning the whole thing..just involved as much as they ask me to be:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I also am trying to figure out what to do and want to get the ball rolling and help plan it. My MIL doesn't have a clue who to invite or what to do. I'm an only child so my family really isn't that big but my BF's is sort of large but I want one BIG shower with everyone. I love get togethers but I want something fun... so I want to plan!!! Glad to hear others are doing the same. Good luck :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
No you def would NOT sound greedy. everyone knows you NEED one. it would be way to expensive to have a new baby without the help of family and friends. and you don't have to tell ppl that you helped. you can have them rsvp to a friend or parent or something. my mom just put her name on the invitation to rsvp but my aunts are also helping. best of luck to you:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I asked my two closest friends, who know each other, to put together our shower, we didn't really have anyone who would "volunteer" without being asked. Then I hooked them up with my third close friend and coworker (who they don't know) because she offered to host it. We provided a list of people to invite and addresses, registry info...and we also OK'ed the invite before it got sent. I have an issue with control so I am trying my best to stay the heck out of the rest of it! I think things are a lot more flexible than they used to be.
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