Oh my god! I was more then appalled on my appointment today! I was referred to Bassett Health care by a friend of mine whom said that the midwives were amazing! Of course I wanted the nicest and most family atmosphere that I could possibly have for this pregnancy and someone who would understand my concern and worry since my last m/c in April. So I was all excited to go meet this midwife today. I walked in and they couldn't find my file, then the midwife said she needed to run tests that my OB JUST ran last week, again since she didnt have my files and then she proceeded to tell me that the way they work is that they are a big practice so I would probably never see the same midwife twice throughout my pregnancy and MAY NOT EVEN KNOW the person delivering my baby, and that I was overweight so that was a HUGE concern of hers and that I "needed to lay off the pizza and cake" (her words). Mind you I had been working very hard at my Vegan diet and was an avid gym goer before I got pregnant this time. I have actually lost 20 pounds since my m/c in April. So she made me feel like all the work I did, was nothing and that I was STILL fat! At the same time my ultrasound at 6 weeks showed a heartbeat and we heard it, and it showed that baby and I were doing fine, however I was concerned because the babies heartbeat was supposed to be between 100 and 140 and it was only 102b/m. However both the ultrasound tech and my ob told me this was perfectly normal and nothing to worry about at this point in my pregnancy, and that everything was healthy and were I should be at this point. So the midwife says to me the baby's heartbeat is extremely low for your last ultrasound and this is cause for concern, you should be worried, you may miscarry. Then after that she proceeds to follow up with "But we aren't going to worry about that little issue now, I want to see you back in 4 weeks and we will go from there...you will be meeting with someone new so you will have to give them your story all over again, so be prepared". I have never felt so hurt, scared to death, and treated like crap before. I thought midwives were suppose to be more friendly then a regular doctor. Needless to say I have already had my paperwork transferred over to a new ob/gyn that I am more familiar with and at least I would see her face regularly and she would be the one to deliver my baby. Anyway, just thought I would share the displeasing update on my appointment today! Wish me luck I have an ultrasound at the end of next week @ which point I will be around the end of my 8th week. Just was curious if anyone else experienced anything horrific like this with midwives or other doctors? Anyway, happy pregnancies to all and keep me posted!
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