I know I'm not the only one who feels like this, but what I need to know is how do you ease your fears? How do you know when your fears should be validated? I have been constantly wondering how healthy my baby is, if she has her fingers and toes, if her lungs will work right, if her heart will beat strong, if she'll have some kind of deformity, if she's a she!!! I know a mother has to worry but I literally freak out, I've even began to feel this surreal feeling as I get closer to my due date, feeling like it's too good to be true, that I'm never really going to have her and so on, and I seem to be focusing on all the things that could go wrong, I have some health issues,like diabetes, and I've taken some diff kinds of medication(rx'd by my ob)I'm religious about all my prenatal visits, both my ultrasounds were 100% perfect, I ask my ob every visit if there was something wrong if he would know, I make sure my measurements are right, and everything is good so what's my problem. I mean how often are ultrasounds not effective on showing things? HOw accurate are they with telling you what sex the baby is?