
Pregnancy - Teens Support Group
This community is dedicated to the experience of being pregnant as a teenager. Pregnant teenagers face many of the same obstetrics issues as women in their 20s and 30s. However, there are additional medical concerns for younger mothers, particularly those under 15 and those living in developing countries. For mothers between 15 and 19, age in itself is not a risk factor,...
And before you are ready to make such a huge life changing decision you have to work to make yourself the best person that you can be, to better care for that child, and give that little life everything that he/she can possibly get.
I know it may seem impossible and that a baby will make things better, but it's a huge huge decision and it changes your life forever. And right now, it might not be the right decision to make.
So before making this huge decision, you have to work at yourself and make yourself the best person you can be, or you are not going to be doing whats best for a baby.
Think about the life a baby will have if there mother is not at her best, and she is not providing all she can to that child. Just because she hasn't tried to help herself first.
I hope I help a little anyway. And I hope you do the right thing, and make the right choices. Good luck with everything. Much love. sandra
Not only do you have to think of the obvious stuff, like money, but you also need to think of the fact that, under 18, or 21 (depending on where you live) you're not legally an adult, so you can't get alot of the health benefits on your own, and your baby can't go under your mother, has to be under you...so you might not be insured. You need to think of the fact that being young, you probably can't get a really great paying job unless your a stripper lol, you need to think of the fact that if you want to go to uni, you'll have to pay for that, whilst paying for medical bills and food..babies cost a hellll of alot of money every week. And what if (god forbid) your baby has a disability when its born? what if something happens to you during the birth? And moreso, are you actually ready to go through that? The pregnancy does such crazy things to your body, and the actual birth is so stressing on your body too. Alot of girls who just 'want a baby'...skip thinking of all the things that lead up to the baby, and just concentrate on having a cute little baby. Its not like that. Though i love my daughter with all my heart, this is the hardest thing i have ever had to deal with, and its not right. I don't have time to go out with my friends anymore, and though they'll come out to coffee or something with me, its not like it used to be, because now we have such different interests. While they're concentrating on the boy they just met, or what they'll wear out on the weekend. i'm thinking about my daughters gooey eye, or her poos, or day cares and enrolling her in school....your life will TOTALLY change. and though there are alot of happy times, there are ALOT of hard times and scary times. And if your hurting yourself hun...now is definately not your time. chanel all the love you have for a child at the moment, all that you're feeling, into bettering your life, making it the best it can possibly be, so that when your time is right, you will have a child that you will have no worries about. Its not a good feeling having to worry about how you'll pay for your childs christmas presents, or having to fill out forms for government payments, or having to leave your child at 3 months in a day care so that you can go study.
Wait till your time is right hun, i know i sound like a hypocrite, but its for the best. it really is. Finish your growing up so that you can give your child wisdom, instead of growing up along side them...just a few steps ahead.
Lots of love and god bless