Don't worry about looking older, hold your head high!! You kept your baby, you're very brave and you you deserve some respect. They should be the ones made to feel ashamed, they are narrow-minded and judgmental It makes me so angry that people can be so shallow!!

lol oh you get used to it... after while you wont even notice them anymore i get them all the time and if some one makes a comment i always tell them that yes im a teen mom and no i dont care what they think.... cuz after all whats the chance that your gonna run into the same person again just ignore them really is the only advice i can give you ive been givin dirty looks for 13 months and get them even more now that im pregnant and have a one year old

Dont let it bother u. Rise above it. My boy is 10 now and I work in a school with narrow minded people who "comment " on our young mums all the time. I correct them or cough loudly. They are stereotypical. Unfortunately, u get type cast.....just rise above it and enjoy ur baby. They aint babys for long x

DOn't worry about them!!
They shoud be proud of you for keeping your baby!
Amazingly being young and pregnant I havn't actually gotten that many dirty looks at all!!
YET!!
They don't deserve your attention if they are going to look at you like that!
Keep you r head up high and look straight past them if they try to give you any looks!
Reen xx

well i can tell u i looked at teen mothers as a bad thing i stared my friend down badly and said omg i dont want to be pregnant ever well guess what at that time i was 6 weeks pregnant and didnt even know it. sometimes i wonder if others are just jealous that they dont have kids or cant, or they think it will be hard work but u get use to it i asum at least aventually i hope soo lol. but what im terrified of is not the looks is if my babys going to have sudden infant death u knwo were the baby dies when its first born i know terrible thought to think of but i cant help it someone brought it to my attention not get everything right now so i hope my babys ok and i had a terrible nightmare last night and me getting my stomache opened while i wasnt on any pain killers for it gross to even think about it. but i cant help it but to eat before bed im so hungray and tired and i try to not eat but im starving in the mornings and then afer i wake up have osmething to eat i go back to bed for a nap. weird so anyways hope everything works out for u and just think positive u got a baby your taking care of it any way u can and u didnt abort or adopt so u have nothing to feel ashamed or badly about.

I don't even think twice about it. Other people are can have their own opinions. The way I feel is I could say to pretty much any other person in the world...Do you have sex? Then its possible you could get pregnant. I made the decision to do it and I am taking the responsibility of the outcome! There is nothing to be ashamed about. My mom and dad are so proud of me. They also will not enable me to leave Baylie with them or leave the responsibility up to them. Now the person that I am I would not do that even if my parents were willing to but it really bothers me when I see teens my age having children and leaving them with they're family while going out and keeping the same lifestyle. There are things you have to give up, no doubt about that. But it can be a fun thing...I used to party for fun, now I play with my baby and watch her smile at me :) its a completely different kind of joy! Anyways about the looks, I personally think its very rude but just brush it off my shoulder...all that matters is that you don't let them get to you :) People can be cruel you can't let it get under your skin or your falling right into their trap. Be proud that you gave birth to a beautiful baby and you took on the HUGE responsibility of raising a child :) Then give them the finger and turn away ;)

I once had a lady walk past us five times in a shopping center, she glared at us every time.

What the hell do they know about your parenting? I think I had it bad until I saw how bad my friend has it, her babies father is dark. The looks she got were soooo much worst than the ones i have ever got.

You will always be judged on how you look. Whether it be the way you dress, the age you are or your race. The fact of the matter is what those people think of you really means nothing in the long run. What really matters is what you think of you.

Just because you are young, a different race or not dressed nicely DOES NOT mean you are not a good mother.

If you child is fed and has clothes and is happy you are doing fine! Eventually you do get used to those looks and don't even notice them anymore.

As for trying to look younger there is no point. I looked 21 when I had my son and I was still given those looks. With ladies having babies later and later it is now common for anyone under 25-30 to be considered a "young mum" and while that don't face the same amount of prejudice as us they do have to face the pathetically outdated and dangerous advice that people seem compelled to give as well as some looks as well.

Don't try and look old, if you want to do anything look nice. Dress in nice cloths, have your child in nice cloths and forget about how old you look.

You know for Mary to be a virgin and unmarried she would have had to have been around 12. Just thought I would throw that is for you to see.

There is evidence suggesting young mums do have a easier time as they can cope with the break in routine where as a 30-40 yo is used to a set routine and when the break happens it is harder for them to deal with the lack of sleep and other lovely things. So whenever someone says something about how hard it must be for you to look after a baby, think of that lovely fact and smile and just agree and point out that even though it is hard you are doing a good job.


Seems I got off track a bit didn't I?
Good luck

Rita

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my daughter and 18 when I had her. I am now almost 20yrs old and Leona is almost 2 and I STILL get nasty looks and ignorant comments, mostly from the elderly. I am constantly hearing "Oh, is that your little sister..." or " You look so young, hope your not going to have anymore" At first I used to get really pissed off and come back with something arrogant but now I just ignore it and turn the other cheek. Just remember, AGE DOES NOT DETERMINE WHETHER A WOMAN IS A GOOD MOTHER OR NOT!!!