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Coping with pregnancy after stillbirth
I can not tell my family anything! My husband's family is very supportive and awseome! My husband is great. When we lost our little girl, we had so much support for his family. My family does not live in our area so I understand it is hard for them to be here all the time, however when we lost Holly they broke down and made it much harder on me and my husband. My grandmother (who I love to death) kept telling me not to try again and to just adopt! While I have nothing against adoption that is not what we wanted to do and this is while I was in the hospital getting ready to deliver my sleeping baby girl. It was just awful. Now my husband's family was great! My mother in law stayed in the room with us the whole time and she and my husband were right at my side everytime I woke up. When I found out I was pregnant I told my husband and mother in law right away and then I decided to wait until I was due to tell my family because I know how negative they are and they will only stress me out. It's just awful because I'd really like to be able to talk to them, but I can't. It just sucks! Anyway, thanks for listening - I'm just venting!
Jaimie
Jaimie
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I'm so sorry that your family is that supportive. That must weigh heavy on your heart. I pray that they find it wthin themselves to pt your needs first. I'm here if you want to vent. :) Hugs, Cynthia
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I'm sorry that your family isn't that supportive. That must weigh heavy on your heart. I pray that God sends them the ability to see that your needs should come first in this situation. Take care, Cynthia
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Don't do anything that will stress you out. Whenever you're ready to tell them is the right time. This isn't about them, it's about you being able to bring a healthy child into the world. I hope in time they can be more supportive. Blessings. Prayers for you, your husband and your "wee one!"
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I'm so sorry for you. Although I am not pregnant again yet, I hope to be by this summer, I couldn't imagine not having support. I have support from my family rather than my husbands and my family is also further away than his family. I lack support from my friends, so I have come to realize that really the only people that truly matter through this is myself and my husband. As long as we are happy that is all I am concerned with. You definately don't need extra added stress. Wait to tell your family until you are ready. Maybe just express to them that if they are negative it will make things worse and that you really need their positive support. I hope you will get their support soon. My prayers are with you and your family. HUGS to you. Remember we are all here on DS for support!
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That sucks that you'll have to keep it in but is better if it would be more stressful to tell them. My family has been great but at the same time I just wish I didn't have to tell anyone until I actually had a little baby in my arms. You have us to lean on when you need to and your husband and his family! Hugs.
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I dont have a close relationship with my siblings, Only my mother. So I have told her. We also dont have a good relationship with my husbands side of the family..I seriously dont know why we both have messed up familys haha..Its so weird. But we are so blessed to have my Mother. When Logan our second son was born still. My mother went grocery shopiing and stocked our fridge with food She cooked for us and claned my kitchen. My inlaws did nothing. They never called us or sent a card..It was very odd. I felt bad for my husband , but after 3 years of putting up with their weird ways. We are finially over it. Logans death made it very clear to us, that they didnt care about us. So I understand how you wish you had a better relationship with your family and could tell them things.
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