i am goiing to a group thing today. translation: i am intentionaly putting myself in a situation where i will be in the presence of a group of people for an extended period of time with the expectation of interacting with them without freaking out. the plan is to get all my freanking out done prior to said meeting. luckly its not till this evening so i have time to work out a lot of things i've already noticed. for example i tend to over share when i get excited/nervous. i will be traveling light in anticipation of this habit. only the basics. basics being my usualy outing gear and a few items related to the topic being discussed. hubby has pledged his support. i have i simple yet comfortable outfit picked out that both Lilu & Kelly agree upon. picking jewelry will be interesting. the rest of us tend to get fussy about that. picking out jewelry may not seem like a big deal to most people but it is a really big deal for us. L & K get to choose the clothes we wear. the rest of us get to express ourselves with jewelry. we get very nervous about it cause we want to look just so and be comfortable. all the decisions. we really want to be able to just enjoy the meeting. no grand jestures. no flooding infomation even if we do know a lot of intersting facts and trivia. no offering to help, let them ask me then keep it short and simple. and the biggest doozie of them all: Keep the topic of all conversations AWAY from my Past as much as possible. if it comes up i don't have to say more than i want to or explain anything i don't feel like explaining. hubby said if i don't like it we can leave. that helps a lot.
thank you for letting mes hash a bit. wish mes luck and strength and calm. -DG Hive, Lilu, & Kelly
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