I am a wife of a paramedic that suffers from PTSD. About 3 years ago he was working on an ambulance it was his last shift before he started a month long vacation, he had 10 minutes left on his mandatory overtime shift. Him and his partner got a call to go to police officer down. When he arrived on scene they found that an officer had been shot 3 times. My husband was first on scene, 2nd ambulance arrived. on the way to the hospital my husbands partner drove them in, he had another paramedic in back and an EMT. The EMT froze and he could not get her to move. The other paramedic was new to the area and had been a medic for only one year. At this time my husband had 7 years as a paramedic and 5 years as an EMT. The other paramedic went to decompress his chest and was not able to do this. My husband was working on getting the officer breathing again. When they arrived at the hospital the officer was alive. They took him straight to the OR. After several hours they were unable to help him. This has brought several issues up for my husband. His department had him stay they with the officers wife (married 6 months) and his parents. All were in the waiting area when the doctors came to tell his family. My husband then had to face the look on his wife that she was no longer married and a mother that just lost her only son. They all had to go to counselor however the counselor was not good for my husband. He did not have good luck with this. We talked about this several times (I am an EMT) my brother and sister-n-law (both police officers)spoke with him. Few months later the wife contacted my husband employer and wanted to see the crew. She needed closure. They all meet and this started everything. They had several service on the anniversary that my husband had to attend. Was always on the news. Could not get away from it. Several weeks after the anniversary my husband broke down and cried. I felt that it was bothering him but he didn't want to talk to me or anyone about it. I finally was able to get him to see a counselor on his own. They put him medication for it. Things got better. Then he said that everyone else was crazy and he was normal and stopped taking the medication. Things went down hill. The wife has started a memorial fund and is always in the news. We just try to avoid the news due to this. But now my marriage is hurting my kids hurt and he hurts. I can see it in his eyes. We are going to counselor together but he still says he is OK. I can see he is not OK. My husband was in school at that time and worked a 2nd job when this happened. His grades dropped to the point he dropped out. He is determined to get out of school, but until this is over in his mind he struggles. I want to stand by his side and help him. I just don't know how to help him. I understand that to get over it he has to want help I can't make him do that. Does anyone have any ideas how I can help him until he wants help. Standing by him is not helping, I just can't watch this man get so depressed. It hurts me too much.
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