I've been living with this roommate since August. She's actually been the best roommate I've ever had. We get along well. She has two little kids who are great, loud but I've grown to love them in the short time I've been here. I love her dog. She's just been easy to get along with.
The other past roommates were horror shows.
But today she told me that she needs to raise the rent to $100 more per month. Her reason: a coworker said that they would easily be willing to pay $600/m to rent this room here. I currently pay $500.
Also, she said her taxes went up $200/y (Even though she wants to charge me an additional $1200/y)
She also listed a whole bunch of personal financial woes for the reason such as her 2 sons' father is a loser who doesn't pay child support and needing house repairs.
All of which are not my problem. But I'm not an ahole. So I tried to negotiate what would be fair for both of us.
I tried to negotiate to $550. She struck it down immediately saying it's not enough, reemphasizing her coworker being willing to pay $600. She then said she doesn't want me to move because it's hard to find a renter who will like her kids and get along with her and them as much as I have. So she's basicly trying to strong arm me into $600. Because she doesn't want to gamble on her coworker or anyone else.
I offered $575 and said that $600 is a big jump in a short amount of time. She said she's have to look at her tax refund to see if she can accept it.
My original plan was to leave to go camping in my van this summer for 1-2 months. I discussed this with her previously and asked if I could basically pay $200/m to hold the place and keep my stuff here til I get back. She was open to it and we figured we would discuss it more as that time got closer. Now, forget it. At $500, it's a steal. At $600, not so much. I also live in a city that is rising in costs continually due to economic growth. I can't afford my own place here. And I would be lucky to even find $600 where I can also bring my dog. But I can't justify paying someone $600 for a room. Here or anywhere. And it's impossible to find any less than $650-700 here, again just for a room and that accepts my dog.
I can move further out and pay that for an apartment or rent a lot for my van with hookup and probably pay less.
My original plan was to leave for Colorado in July and be there til mid August. Then come back here.
I'm now going to leave here in mid May. I substitute teach so school will be over. My side job is just that. A side weekend gig. Decent extra money but not enough to justify staying longer than May. I'll stash away everything I can for a rainy day and what I need just to start the business, whihc was my plan all along. The only reason to stay longer was to hold on to this place and go back to substitute teaching in August.
But I can substitute teach pretty much anywhere now that I know how it works. Easy to get hired in any district. And I only need to work a few days a week.
But that's not what I really want to do. I've been rolling around a business idea in my head that I can do on the road. In fact, it would work better on the road. And because I still get SSD, I have that net no matter what until my business takes off. I recently started mapping out the idea, thinking I'd do it down the road at some point. But now, I feel like this is the push that I need.
Long term, I want to buy or rent a plot of land and have a tiny home on it. I don't need much. I prefer the outdoors anyway. I thrive in the outdoors. Too much time indoors is just not good for me.
And since I'll be doing a lot of camping in the great outdoors, I won't be van lifing it in the city, which sucks. Trying to find a new place to sleep each night is stressful. With camping, you camp on public land or campgrounds/rv parks and lots and stay as long or as short as you like, depending on the policies of the place.
The other nice part? My side gig is something I can literally do anywhere in the country because I'm a contractor who does food samplings in retail stores. The company contracts out to several states and stores. So if I want to pick up a few weekend shifts a month wherever I am, good chance I can. My dog would go to doggie daycare but the cost of that is far less than what I make just over a weekend if I work a few shifts so financially, it's still worth it. Anyway, kicking that around as an interim thing as well.
I can't afford to live here at this point. And given the horrors of past roommates, I don't want to gamble with that again. Even with this one, who I have gotten along with amazingly up til now, threw me a curve ball. And what happens when December rolls around again and she says, "Now I need $650." I'm gonna stay firm on $575, then tell her let's see how it goes for a few months, then give her 1 month's notice in April. She does want me here. She has literally said I'm the best roommate she's ever had. So her unwillingness to negotiate is shooting her in the foot long term. But that's her call.
I'm not living with other people anymore. Will travel for a while and save up for that plot of land and tiny home that I can built most of myself and hire a contractor for the stuff I can't/don't want to do.
I'm writing all this as a way to get my thoughts out but also feedback. I know I've mentioned wanting to do this in the future. I did it for a few months, which was great when I wasn't in the city. But in the city, it's too hard and too stressful. I love camping, just not urban camping. So that's my idea. Wish me luck.
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