I posted a few weeks ago. Longtime DS user.
I am currently being discriminated against at work. I work for the govt and have for many years. I got a new boss about a year ago. I've worked from home full time due to my PTSD for over 5 years. My symptoms have worsened over the years. Before being able to work from home I missed a LOT of work due to my symptoms. I've had many different bosses over the years of working from home and no issues. Now, suddenly, this new one has an issue with it. I suspected early on that this boss had an issue with me working from home full time (everyone else works from home 3 days per week). Things got worse and worse until I realized that untrue statements were being made about me in order to make it look like I wasn't fulfilling my work duties. It became obvious that there was a paper trail being built on me, by using lies and half-truths and I believed the intention was to try to remove my "reasonable accommodations" (working from home).
I have a very extreme fear of confrontation, that is a huge part of my PTSD and my biggest trigger. So it took me a while before I had worked up the courage to do something about this. I talked to several different people and it was determined that this fit into the category of discrimination based on disability and I filed a complaint with EEO. That is still ongoing. Immediately after filing this complaint, my boss notified me that we would be re-evaluating my reasonable accommodation and that reasonable accommodation does not necessarily mean working from home. I know what a reasonable accommodation is, and for PTSD working from home is one of the listed reasonable accommodations. So I am tasked with getting a letter from my medical provider, which is not a problem. But now it is obvious what is going on. While I'm waiting on this letter, I get a message from my boss to come into work one day this week and meet. My boss works at another location, hours away, and we've never met. Obviously, this is impossible for me for multiple reasons. One, my PTSD makes it impossible for me to go to work. Two, confrontation is my biggest trigger. Three, my symptoms have been THROUGH the roof in the last month or so with all of this going on. I haven't been able to sleep or eat and am having panic attacks daily. I'm having nightmares throughout the night and waking up every hour or less. I also suffer from chronic illness and the lack of sleep makes my chronic illness symptoms worse. I am shaking and sweating nonstop.
I feel like it is documented (and has been for years) that I suffer from a medical condition that requires me to work from home to mitigate my symptoms. Therefore, a reasonable accommodation was made years ago. Asking me to come in is akin to asking a blind person with a reasonable accommodation for a guide dog to come in without the dog. Or something like that. This is MY reasonable accommodation due to MY illness. And it's being ignored like it's optional. Would the same be happening if I was blind or paralyzed? I don't work from home because it's fun. I work from home because it's necessary. I do everything from home. I don't leave the house anymore due to my illnesses. I used to be a very active person before all this happened to me. I didn't ask to have my life taken away from me. I used to be very into extreme sports. I have a wakeboard, snowboard, jetski, boat, bikes, etc that have been sitting here, unused, for many years. Not because I don't want to go out and have fun anymore. Because I CAN'T. My symptoms prevent me from doing the things I enjoy. And this obviously isn't being taken seriously. None of my other bosses did this.
I seriously don't know how much more I can take. I'm at my breaking point and on the verge of a nervous breakdown. If they successfully take away my reasonable accommodation, I will not be able to keep my job. It will be the same as firing me. And I won't be able to afford to live. I live in constant fear now.
I have a mediation set with a higher up boss next week and this is going to be very difficult for me. I've been trying to mitigate my symptoms and just survive through this but every time I turn around, it's more craziness from my boss. I don't know what to do.
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