The aquiescence to marrying the monster is actually decided when girls are very young, usually before 5 yrs of age. They are taught not to "see" and instead to "make pretty" all manner of grotesquieries. This early training to "be nice" causes women to override their intuitions. In that case they are actually purposefully taught to submit to the predator. Imagine a wolf mother teaching her cubs to "be nice" to the wolverine or a wily diamond back rattler.
Do you hear that? I WAS ACTUALLY PURPOSEFULLY TAUGHT TO SUBMIT TO THE PREDATOR!!!
I see all over the place, on ds and elsewhere, with all of us, how we have been tricked and betrayed by all of society including our families. Some symptoms of this Universal betrayal of women by so many societies results in symptoms such as losing energy to be creative in all areas of life, to sabotage realtionships, to set goals only to not even begin or to abandon it at the first sign of hardship. This is how all the procrastinations which give rise to self hatred, all the shame feelings that are pushed down, fester. Wherever the predator lurks and works, everything is derailed, demolished and decapitated.
We must be willing to open our wolf eyes in order to see the reality that perpetrators are everywhere. We must be strong enough to use our whily wolf ways to avoid entrapment. We must teach other women to see and we must teach the perpetrators to lose their destructive ways