It is correct and logical that if you didn't have a good attachment as a child you will look for it your whole life in the hope that once you will get what you so painfully missed when you needed it most. Thus you can't easily detach yourself and are waiting that your parents CHANGE, unless you have felt in your therapy how much you suffered because of your lack of attachment, and overcome this loss. Waiting for their change will only increase your dependency on your parents because usually they don't change. And even if they did, you still need to feel and understand the pain of the SMALL, abandoned and hurt child you once were so that you can understand and resolve your plight of today. As an adult you don't need abusive parents, not at all. Only in childhood there was no other choice.
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