SO as some of you know my husband and I did almost 3 years and hour and half each week with a marriage counsellor. Probably not too smart but there were times I felt we were making changes. In the end we stagnated, so one last ditch effort we have tried a new one with a very different process.
I realized you can't do the same thing and expect a different outcome, the definition of insanity. So I wrote a very nice email to the old counsellor before we had our last session. Explaining we were going to try something else and to thank him from my heart as he was the one that helped me see my old burried memories of pain and torture when I was 19months old to 3 years old. I have felt more at peace with this information as it made my life finally make sense. I was always so hard on myself and wondered why I married a pedophile and sociopath. I often wondered if I just got dropped on my head for my poor choices and decades of counselling didn't seem to get to the heart of it. SO I am more than grateful
The marriage counsellor was really upset and almost seemed rejected. He said we should continue for another 6 months with him?? My husband was doing some individual counselling with him as well and he dropped him as a client becasue we were going to do counselling elsewhere. So it was not the money, but we both felt awful and raw leaving. He also cut the session halfway through and said we were finished but we had prepaid for the whole session? Weird