I joined a club for women that volunteers, fund raises and donates to women's non-profits. They also support women going to school with 1000.00 award. I was so excited to be part of this group, but there was a catch of course. The catch was that my pyschritist's wife and the social worker I had in the hospital are part of this group. I almost did not join because I did not feel comfortable with it, but in the end I decided that if i kept things professional that I could join and I was not joining for those reasons. I was joining because I liked that the group helped women and women around the world. The international group even has a seat at the United Nations. \cow cool is that.
Anyway, the dr's wife started the local chapter and was the president for 2 years. A new president was elected and her and I get along great. We will call her X. Anyway, X asked me to handle the duties of the roster, so I went to her house this week and together we updated the spreadsheet we keep, and the international website. I sent the updated spreadsheet to X as it was not my duty to send it out to the members. She quickly wrote me back and told me that the dr's wife does not want that changed and asked me to email her and ask if it was ok to send out.
So I sent it to the Dr's wife and I got a rather sharp email back about that basically put me in my place and let me know I am a big piece of shit. I am kind of guessing she knows I am a patient of her husband's and is no to crazy about having a nut job in the club. I certainly did not deserve this email and it really upset me. I cried and wondered why people hate me so much when all I am trying to do is good things. I am did what the new president of our club asked me to and got raked over the coals. I did this with the president of the club sitting beside me in fact, we did it together. OMG! I am only trying to fit in and belong to something. I am fairly sure I have been outed as a pysch case and the rich ladies do not want any part of that in their club.
When we first met the dr's wife was so nice to me, it has only been the last couple weeks she has been going out of her way to put me down, correct me, rake me over the coals. She is sending me a message to get out. I may just one up her and out myself to the entire group and see where that goes. I am fairly sure there are only a few people who are aware and not everyone in the club. I don't think she has told everyone.
Please read the email below and let me know if this is me over reacting or should I be upset by the tone and nature of this email. I need some advice please? I am really pissed by this because I was with the president I get this like i did it all on my own! I hate conflict yet here I am being acused of being the bad guy when all I was trying to do was help.
Here is the email I got back tonight.
thank you for taking on the important role of keeping our roster up to date.
I am bit astounded that you changed the data on our SIA website without getting the consent of each member. The data included there were given by each member with the membership form and certainly have some statistical importance for SIA. This information is not open to the public. We decided that the roster for our club doesn’t need this information and thus excluded it. By the way the SIA roster is usually updated by the treasurer.
Towards your second question: The roster should include all voted offices or chairs. All other members of committees decided on their own to join the committee and might change their commitment every year, thus in my opinion this information should not be included in the roster.
Hope this is of any help.
By the way I noticed that _____ is stated as co chair for the Public Awareness Committee. As far as I remember we have not voted on this. We voted only for _____correct me if I am wrong. We will need to do this and have a record of this in the minutes.
Please let me know if you have any other questions or concerns
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