how to help daughter
I just found out today that my daughter is struggling with PTSD. She was raped- I still struggle to say it/write it/absorb it- when she was 14. We knew about an "incident" she had then- she glazed it over then and made it seem like just acting out as a teen- but she didn't tell us what really happened. Even then we looked into prosecuting anyone we could because we suspected older boys were involved and we were told we couldn't press charges for anything then. It was her first sexual experience and she was basically pimped out by a girl she thought was a friend and handed over to three guys my daughter didn't know. Her years after that were fraught with dysfunction, anorexia, depression, insecurity, drama and multiple difficulties. She insisted that this event wasn't as big a deal as we thought it was- she smoothed it over- probably to convince herself it wasn't a big deal so she could function and move on at the time. She finally at 24 decided to get help and be honest and up front about her difficulties with a wonderful therapist she found. How do I help her? Her therapist gave me some ideas- some books to read. What do I say and not say? What to do or not do? I'm almost relieved that we finally after all these years got the root of the issue and I feel like this therapist really can get her out of the darkness and relieve her of her secrets so she can move one and enjoy her life and do what she wants to do without the weight of this on her.
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