my parents are the cause of a lot of my pain. i have a really good relationship with them. i have never faced them with it, but i have forgiven them and tried to understand what drove them to treat me that way. i dont have anything to do with the people who sexually assaulted me and i never want to see them ever. hope that helps

I avoid almost everyone. That's why I'm alone most days. I can't take any kind of abuse, and if people abused me and haven't apologized and changed their ways, then I don't see them.

I tried to renegotiate relationships with abusers but as they were people who not only would not change but continued to hurt me I have broken contact as far as possible. If I have to deal with someone who has caused me pain I rehearse what I am going to say and take control of the situation to make it as brief as possible. This helps me to keep calm. The knowledge that I can say "I must go now" and do so really empowers me.

I moved 1500 miles away from my abusive ex, but he found his way here with his new wife. Since he was here, he wanted to see our son. I let him see my son at my parent's house, he brought his new wife!
Anyway, it was like being raped all over again, being drug through molten hot glass that cut through to my inner core. I felt like he was saying, "I can come anytime, and you can't do anything about it, you'll never stop me." It took all I had (and strong reassurances from my parents) NOT to lash out at him, which is still what I want to do. I want to make him see what he did to me. I thank God that they moved away and have never contacted us again; that was 10 yrs ago. When I go to the gun range w/ my .45, I see his face on the target.

I think it is in your best interst to speak as little as possible to some one that has been abusive. Ther eis absolutely nothing wrong with that. I would create super boundaries and get him to a level that is way far away from your heart. He may take care of his children now and again...but you do not have to do anything other than make the time and the date..everything else is out.

So, boundaries is my answer to how to deal with. deep breaths...grounding tools. I would also advise to take a book or a pillow when and if you have to answer the door and place it over your stomach. Hold it there while interacting and know that it is a boundary so that you can not get hurt ... confirm your self you are protecting yourself. I have done this in my past and it really helps.

no. my parents are gone. never met my dad. grandmother was mean mean and gone too. i was too afraid to confront my main abuser - and now don't know where he is and sometimes i regret confronting him with what he did and how it hurt me; but i'd probably freeze and go numb if i saw him... so no. just as well, i want to focus on healing, even though i still have to go into 'it' in therapy.

whoops, correction, that would be:

'not' confronting him...

much of my ptsd is from my mom. i try to avoid her as much as i can. just thinking about family events where i know she will be there makes me sick to my stomach. i try to deal with her by pretending everything in my life is going perfect. i have a hard time calming myself down, i'm always a nervous wreck, can't sleep, get flashbacks, disassociate like crazy.

I deal with one perpetrator 2-3 x a year only due to financial issues. I write him a letter and tell him what I need and he sends me a check with no note, no writing, nothing. I wish I was financially able to take care of everything but I'm not. I do not speak to him nor call him, and he does not speak to me nor call me. I notice when I do have to break down and write him due to finances, I experience more PTSD symptons, ie, nightmares, flashbacks, hyperness, panic/fear. Like I said, if I could do without his finances it sure would be easier. But I'm thankful I do not have to see him or hear his voice. I hope I made sense.

My main abusers were within my family. I feel that they have already taken enough of my time and energy both with the abuse and with the never ending process of getting over the abuse. I stay as far away from them as I can. My abusers play games with people - I just do not have the time for useless game playing. I want to live my own life - not one that is a reaction to abuse.

no, no and more no.... I think I would die of fear if I would even see them again... luckily they are far away in a different country.

For the most part, absolutely not. I strive to learn to attract only healthy, safe and respectful people around me (now thats a difficult one). I continued to maintain some sort of relationship with my family for many years, but later realised that they were continually abusive, neglectful etc etc. So I have totally lost contact with them many years ago and unfortuneatly am still quite fearful that they may try to contact me in the future....they have no idea the damage. My fear is because I still do not feel strong enough to keep the negative interaction/putdowns and disregard from pulling me down. So I chose to lose all contact.

NOT anymore. My Denial Mom kept trying to reincorporate the abuser, the step-dad, into my life for the last 4 years. Didn't seem to bother me on the outside, but subconciously it was bothering me greatly...and I was finally diagnosed with PTSD this year.

Since then, NO MORE ABUSER CONTACT whatsoever.

With Denial Mom, I have set boundaries and limits, and she needs to come to terms with rebuilding our relationship and believing me...and keeping me and my kids safe from the abuser.

If not, will have to cut ties. I have already distanced myself somewhat from her since the PTSD diagnosis.