
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Support Group
Find support with others who have gone through a traumatic experience. Whether you have chronic or acute PTSD, we are here for you.
Do you still speak to people who have hurt you?

deleted_user
My ex husband (the father of two of my children) is the cause of a lot of my PTSD.
I still have to speak to him and while I am thankful he is no longer an alcoholic and is taking a genuine interest in the lives of his children I still find it hard to speak to him.
Do you still deal with people who have caused you pain?
How do you deal with them? What do you tell yourself to keep yourself calm before, during and after speaking/seeing them?
I still have to speak to him and while I am thankful he is no longer an alcoholic and is taking a genuine interest in the lives of his children I still find it hard to speak to him.
Do you still deal with people who have caused you pain?
How do you deal with them? What do you tell yourself to keep yourself calm before, during and after speaking/seeing them?
Posts You May Be Interested In
-
theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
-
I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Anyway, it was like being raped all over again, being drug through molten hot glass that cut through to my inner core. I felt like he was saying, "I can come anytime, and you can't do anything about it, you'll never stop me." It took all I had (and strong reassurances from my parents) NOT to lash out at him, which is still what I want to do. I want to make him see what he did to me. I thank God that they moved away and have never contacted us again; that was 10 yrs ago. When I go to the gun range w/ my .45, I see his face on the target.
So, boundaries is my answer to how to deal with. deep breaths...grounding tools. I would also advise to take a book or a pillow when and if you have to answer the door and place it over your stomach. Hold it there while interacting and know that it is a boundary so that you can not get hurt ... confirm your self you are protecting yourself. I have done this in my past and it really helps.
'not' confronting him...
Since then, NO MORE ABUSER CONTACT whatsoever.
With Denial Mom, I have set boundaries and limits, and she needs to come to terms with rebuilding our relationship and believing me...and keeping me and my kids safe from the abuser.
If not, will have to cut ties. I have already distanced myself somewhat from her since the PTSD diagnosis.