I have ptsd from childhood sexual abuse among other things. It was two cousins. One is still around and he sometimes shows up for xmas with our family. He is never really invited as far as I know but his mother is. I really never know from year to year if he will be there or not. Talking with my therapist she wants me to tell my parent (it is their home we meet at for xmas) that I do not want him around. I think that would be great. I really don't want to see him. It would be better for me if I didn't. But at the same time I don't want to cause trouble at the holidays. I really want to say if he is invited then I won't come but then he wins and I don't get to see my family. If I make a scene if he shows up then he knows what he did still has an effect on me, he wins. I also put my parents in the position to tell my aunt her son is not welcome. And she may not even know or remember what happened to me. Aaarrrgh!
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