i wish i had some advice for you. i've never been in that kind of a situation. is there anyway to have his phone number blocked?

He never gave me his phone number he always called from Caribou Caffe or someone else's cell phone.

when I was younger, we used to screen all of our class. We would let the answering machine pick up and then decide whether or not we wanted to talk to the person. it was mainly used to screen out telemarketers for us though.

I would do what Sophie suggested. I would also get an Order of Protection. Then if he left a message, you could give it to the police. The bully is more likely to go away when he/she realizes that you won't roll over and play dead. :)

Talk about a major trigger. I'm so sorry he called you. I don't know the whole story since I haven't read your journals but I was wondering if you could change your phone number and go unlisted until you work through this some more. Just a suggestion. Please take it easy with give yourself a bunch of TLC. I don't know what I would do if one of my perpetrators contacted me. Sounds like overall you have a pretty good grip on things. Put the Xanax and sleeping pills away so you aren't tempted. Watch some wholesome TV or curl up with a good book instead. I hope you get to feeling better. vickie

I would put away the xanax and klonopin and sleeping pills but I am addicted to them and trying to find a place to go for treatment. I am already in therapy but I need to go away somewhere. Thaks for all your thoughts. I appreciate them.

yes I have been there.My ex husband raped me and he had his friends rape me as well.I went though a gang rape drugged because of him and suffered 2 additional rapes due to him and 1 attempted rape ( witch I almost got arrested and charged for hitting him with a crowbar while he was trying to rape me ).
It is much harder when the abuser constantly lets you know they are still there.I moved and changed my phone # he still found me.I know the nightmares and they can get bad.Do know it gets better, some heal slower than others.Take a deep breath and go to counseling even if can not yet talk about it, you can talk out your feelings on it first.I never had a pregnancy because of it due to being infertile.I know that deep in my heart if it did happen that way and it meant it was my only shot at motherhood, I don't think I would be able to go though the pregnancy.Know that you made the right decision for you and it will get better.There is no right and wrong for this and if you need a friend I am here.Talking helps even when it is hard.Also ( I know it might not work but ) get a protection order, at least if he comes over you can get him thrown in jail.I know they are hard to enforce but it gives you a bit more power over him and yourself.I sill have issues, but it is getting better just stay hopefull.Good luck and msg me if you need someone.

I would fight back... get an order of protection like someone said, tell him to leave him alone, show him you're not scared of him and destroy him as a trigger. you can do it.

My abuser refused to stop. She felt like she had a right to be a grandmother to my son. She stopped by a month after he was born and I called the cops. I also filed for protection (I was denied). She finally got the message at that point. I am not running anymore. I am gonna fight back.

Yes, you could get an order of protection.

You could change your phone number, and make it unlisted.

Don't let him win....fight back....don't let him get over on you.

You need to protect yourself, physically and mentally.

Let us know how it turns out!