Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) Support Group

Polycythemia is a condition in which there is a net increase in the total circulating erythrocyte (red blood cell) mass of the body. Primary polycythemia occurs when excess erythrocytes are produced as a result of a proliferative abnormality of the bone marrow. Secondary polycythemia is caused by increases of erythropoietin that result in an increased production of...

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deleted_user 04/05/2008

do people with children just not understand or are they stupid???

why why why!!! do people with kids rub it in ya f..king face that they have kids.. when you are suffering PCOS an they have no sympathy or care in the world what its doing to you while your childless... i can saftey say even if i didnt have PCOS an i had kids an knew someone struggling which i do before i knew i had this.. an trouble.. i never even BROUGHT UP the subject or children

my sister inlaw is a christian an even though i have told her an my brother that i have PCOS - primary infertility an have been struggling for ages to get pregnant.. they keep giving me this "its gods timing.. an sh!t like.. god wont punish you with PCOS just coz the docs says u havent doesnt mean god does... there so fake to the real world.. so what? i think if god doesnt ever let me have kids am i then getting punished?????????? an why does she feel the need or other people feel the need to rub in bout how pregnant they are? when me an my husband thought we were pregnant we started trying an if we were .. we would of been due on the 14th of may this year.. well my sister inlaw is pregnant an her due date is the 14th of may?!!!! is this outa spite? is it done on purpose? she already has 3 kids.. why am i not getting pregnant!!! what the hell did i do to deserve such sh!t!!!!

an she looooves to bring up how her sister is pregnant an how some of her friends are.. etc.. an shes so pathetic makes me feel the baby kick on her belly.. an then talks bout how shes kept clothing for my babies.. i just dont get it.. my hub an i never recieved a wedding gift off them in 06 when we got married.. an she goes "i have the perfect thing to give u but cant give it to u just yet" an i just KNOW what it is.. its something to do with babies i can bet it! an im mostly sick to death of people telling me to be an stay positive.. easy for them.. they arent suffering this sh!t.. you never know or understand it till your going through it.. some things just need to get out an shown.....

an then i get scared.. after all this heart ache that when eventually i DO get pregnant.. if i do... that ill miscarry or something

i find it so hard to cope with this espeically when the doc spits at me saying "its a common disease that we dunno how its caused.. an theres no cure ahhhhhhhhh!!!!!!! I KNOW YOU PCOS suffers know exactly how frustrating that feels!!!... having depression too doesnt help.. i just want to be a mum.. :-(

sorry bout all this.. just need to vent an i know you women are the perfect ones for that.. as you know exactly how i feel..

thanks everyone for listening xx

deleted_user 04/05/2008

I Hear you completely. I have friends who flat out....are bad moms. Not just THey arent great the one's husband is moving them to a state where he can get the kids before he devorces her....she beats her son . She was at my house treating her son like shit and my husband got in her face and chewed her out. then I went out and had a BIG talk with her and she seems to be doing somewhat better, but it just isnt fair. I see these HORRIBLE mothers and I could just scream at them. I want to say "DO YOU NOT KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE? JUST STOP TAKE A STEP BACK AND SEE WHAT YOU ARE DOING!!! I CANT HAVE A CHILD AND THIS IS HOW YOU TREAT YOURS? THIS IS A SLAP IN THE FACE AND I AM DONE WITH YOU" but I love their childeren to much to check out. there are three childeren (two from the beater girl and one whos mother smokes pot all the time in the same room as the baby) that I would just LOVE to steal and run away with and give those kids a fighting chance. sorry now Im venting. Hang in there we hear you. We all feel the same way you do and feel free to vent any time you need to

deleted_user 04/05/2008

Oh Honey! I think everyone in here is either in the exact same spot with at least one person in their lives or they've been there in the past. I work with a girl who's got two kids and told me once "Well you wouldn't understand. You've never been a mom." I coulda hit her in the face for that, instead I just said No I wouldn't now would I and walked off. I work at a daycare and see children every day whose parents care nothing about them. They bring the kids in sick, don't provide them with the things they need, and treat them like animals. Their kids are nothing but inconvenient tax deductions. Yet they have no problems having children. And it hurts necause I'd do anything for a child. You're not alone. We share your fears, pain and frustrations. I'm here if you need to talk more.

deleted_user 04/05/2008

thanks chics its a hard time for sure.. mrsrobbins.. thats awful bout your friend an her kids gees! dont blame you for wanting to vent.. vent to me all ya want.. i hate it when people are ungrateful...

i always have a friend with a 3 yr old there struggling to have another an she feels like giving up an think its worlds end.. but hey.. atleast she has her daughter? im completely childless.. an i think she forgets that.. i wish people just thought bout how we feel??? will that ever happen?

cehale.. thanks for ya message.. that is really nasty what that lady said to you.. sorry she did that.. thats nasty.. my older brother treats me like that too.. if my neices or nephew play up an i try to put them back in order he tells me off sayin u wouldnt no ur not a mum etc.. i feel ya pain!

hang in there chics.. if we have to deal with this bullsh!t lets do it together xx

deleted_user 04/05/2008

that was meant to say i also have a friend not i always have a friend*

deleted_user 04/05/2008

Well I have to say that I'm a christian and I don't believe that God is punishing us. He loves all his children. I blame Adam and stinking Eve. They knew better and we have to suffer the outcome.....imperfection. It really sucks too. I know how you feel though. Why is it that people who don't deserve kids, have like five od=f them. They can't even show them real love and support them. My sister in law was so stupid. She is a good mother, but durning her last pregnancy, the only thing she could think about was whether or not it was another boy, or if it was the girl she has always longed for. WHO cares. As long as the baby is healthy, it shouldn't matter. I would love to have two boys. Why can't be happy with the gift God gave them? Stupid people. They get on my nerves!!!! Hand in there friend. We know how you feel.

deleted_user 04/06/2008

weird how you have to go through all of this business to adopt a baby but any old loser can give birth to one. i just wish you had to have permision to have a baby! haha. wouldn't that solve a lot of issues?

deleted_user 04/06/2008

I know just what you mean! My sister and I got into it one day about having kids. She thinks I'm crazy for taking fertily meds. She told me if I were relying on God that I wouldn't need medicene and that I should just change my diet. That was the worst thing she could of said to me. If it were that easy I think we would of all just changed our diets. She has a 2yr old and a 3 week old. There are days I wish she knew how I felt.

deleted_user 04/07/2008

oooh birdie.. i feel your pain hun.. that was very selfish of your sister.. geez if curing this peice of shit disease was that easy.. i agree we'd all change our diet.. how unfair.. hang in there.. im with you on this! x

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