So my weekend is finally comming to an end thank god !. This weekend has been so horriable sometimes I wish the weekends never would come . I need some advice . My in-laws live about 1 1/2 away from us . We usually see them every week or everyother week , my mother in-law has had issues since my daughter was born with her spending more time with my parents then them . I live over my parents due to they have had times when they have been ill and it's easier we have 2 seperate apartments . My husband works evenings and I now started working 2 days a week , well my husband is off on Fridays and Saturdays and I work now on Fridays so our only real day together is Saturday . Well this is what happened we decided that we where not going to go to my in-laws Friday cause we where invited to a picnic with people that we go to church with and we where just going to "relax" and stay close to home . We slept in late on Friday morning and woke up to my mother in-law leaving a snotty message about how she hoped my daughter was having a good 4th with her grandparents down here and that when we felt like calling them to call them , so I was a little upset . I belive that if there are issues with grandparents that they are not discussed infront of my daughter granted she is only 9 months old but I still don't belive in it . My husbands mother and father are divorced and she is re-married so that is really how it came all about was that my daughter didn't hear negative things about her grandfather . Her grandfather never says anything negative he's just a simple guy who enjoys whatever time he gets with us . My mother in-law them proceeded to call my sisters home and my parents home looking for us . My husband called her back Saturday morning after he cooled off . She then left another message going on about how she doesn't get to spend time with my husband and my daughter and just being nasty . Which leads then to my husband and I fighting cause she's speaking about my parents who never say a bad word about them at all . I'm so hurt by what she is doing my husband lies to his mother so that she doesn't get upset if we do something with my family or he lies about seeing his father cause she gets upset over that . I'm so hurt I can't even put into words and of course I totally took it out on my husband cause I feel like we shouldn't have to live like this and we shouldn't have to walk on egg shells with my mother in-law . I feel like it's ruining my marriage at this time and I told my husband this afternoon that I don't think I want to bring another child into this situation . Am I being wrong here by saying that my husband needs tell his mother he's old enough to make his own choices and that sometime we want family time and I don't feel like I should be tracked down by my in-laws when I'm spending time with my family and with my husband and daughter . I do get emotional about it and sometimes I blow up at my husband when i should be blowing up on her but I think that puts my husband in a bad position also . So I have now decided that he will see his family without me I want nothing to do with them . I do get upset so I'm looking for advice to see how others think that they would deal with it . Sorry so long thank you .
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