I've feel like I can't take it anymore but can't think of any good solution. I have survived for years just figuring the times she was in a good mood would be enough. It doesn't have anything to do with me, certainly there are times that I do things that set her off, but it can be any trigger, something that happened that day, something someone else did, something on TV or just cause it's Sunday night. Whenever she is upset or in a bad mood then she will start in on the verbal abuse, that's pretty much a daily occurrence. Sure I just ignore it but then she will start cursing and saying horrible things about me to the kids, so then what? I don't want to put the kids in the middle of it and I don't want to call her names but I don't want my kids thinking these things she says are true. I just hope when they are older they will be able to figure out the truth. And then there are the really bad days when she gets physical, scratching, hitting, throwing things at me, exactly how much am I supposed to just take without defending myself. I try to walk away, go to another room, let her cool off but she will come after me. She has broken locked doors just to continue attacking me. I can't just leave the house to get away from her in the middle of the night, I have nowhere to go. I really don't want a divorce, it's a mess for the kids and a huge ordeal, but I don't want to keep being treated this way forever
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