I know how it feels to waste time ... I am with a man right now... hes awesome.. has quirks like we all do... but he tells me last night when we are in bed that he is thinking of us breaking up... we have a 4 month old daughter together... what do i do?.... I know how you feel need someone I will love you... I love everyone... good or bad... I will love you.. (friends love)

For myself I found that investing time in yourself and not trying or looking for love was really the answer. When I was least expecting it it found me. We started out strictly friends and progressed forward over the course of about 6 months. If you can be friends before lovers I found that you've got it made and you'll never have a boring moment together because you both share the same interests and ideals.

This sounds kind of like you are taking the victim role here. As long as you continue to play the victim, you will not find the right kind of love because you do not love yourself. You need to really love yourself. If you are all the great things that you say you are, then you should be confident, and taking the thoughts more like this, "I am such a rat person. I know thta with the all of these wonderful qualities I have that I will find the right person and it will be because I choose to be with them, not because I have no one else to be with."

alright guys i didn't mean i'm looking for love :) i'm just wanting to know how to deal with bad thoughts like will I meet someone great and they will judge me...thats all.

Don't blame yourself. If that's the case I blew it with my father and with my boyfriend and with everyone. It's not your fault and shit happens for a reason why? who knows. but it's true do you think you would be half the person you are today if it wasn't for all the shit you put up with to get to where you are now. I doubt it. Some one will love you and will find you and if not that it wasn't true love to begin with. Some times we get the raw deal of having to deal with more shit and more abuse so that we get tested and pushed to be a better person. I truly believe that now. I never did but when you fight with someone to get something you want it wasn't worth it. I would love to talk to you and help you through this please let me know.
I'll be here
Tara

Again, you are doubting your beautiful fine self. It is all about self-talk and affirmations you say to your self during the course of the day. Everytime you catch yourself saying to yourself, "Will I ever find love, Can I ever deal with the bad thoughts, will people judge me", instead, stop these thoughts--don't indulge them--say to yourself instead, "I will find love, I only have good thoughts, People do not judge me, I am beautiful, I am loving, I am attracting extraordinary things into all aspects of my life." It might be cheesy but doing this is activating a couple of Universal laws--one of them is the law of attraction, the other is the law of divine oneness.

I am right there with you. I gave my life to the marriage and lost myself, my good credit, and my sanity. I think we have to have hope that there are good men out there, and one of them will find us someday! Stay strong and beautiful!!

Yes, it was difficult .. what you endured .. please take a moment .. read all that has been written to you ..

You are loved right now .. for exactly who you are .. no .. not a romantic love .. but it is love .. none the less ..

I'm going to challenge you .. you say you wasted 7 years .. I say .. no you did not .. you learned many things .. about yourself .. about him .. and about what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate ..

No one deserves abuse .. NO ONE .. EVER ..

Please take heart .. you are growing .. and growing stronger day by day ..