This is the situation, I have chronic pain in my neck and back, I have Interstitial Cystitis (a painful bladder condition), I just strained some muscles in my back (again) and am having muscle spasms from the top of my neck to the bottom of my sholder blade on my right side. He wants to have sex, let me remind you I am in a lot of pain. So he puts my right hand on his... well you know, and says "You going to do anything with that?" I say I am not going to be able to do anything tonight I am in a lot of pain. He says "well you know there are other ways to do it than just with your hand. Last time I checked sex was relaxing." Like all my pain would go away if I would just have sex with him. He kept after me about it 3 or 4 more times, like I was being selfish because my pain shouldn't have any affect on our sex life. The more I said no the more upset he got, the more he made me feel like I am a terrible wife and person. Any advice? Guys what do you think about this, should I have just had sex with him eventhough I was in a lot of pain? Please only respond to this discussion here, I don't want my husband to read any of this, he has made it very clear he doesn't want me to talk about him to anyone. Thanks! I appreciate any advice.
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