I have been through this before with my ex husband and I don't know what I am hanging onto with this guy. We have lived together for 5 years. When I got the job interview he told me I didn't need a job and that if I got it and didn't like it, I could always quit. It is a job in my field and he told me to go to the interview for the experience of the interview. So I did, I got the job and the day I got it he was real supportive. Until I told him what it paid. Which was 14 grand more than a starting positions in the field, and I am the first and only woman in my department. He changed that day, he left the next day to go out of town for his job, got back a week later and was completely different and hasn't been the same since. That was when he went into his rage about my getting better from my depression and he didn't want to be around me because of it, and he didn't want to be around me when I was depressed. He told me he deliberately verbally abused me and why would I want to be with someone that did that. HE said he was moving out paying for me to live out the lease, which he hadn't signed yet and when he did he signed it for a year. He would come home sometimes in quiet moods, then others in really good almost like a high mood. And he would lie and say he was out looking for apartments, and he wasn't. He would go days without answering my phone calls, and emails. I finally told him I agreed he needed to move out, I got him boxes and told him I would help him pack, and he told me he didn't need my help and that he just started looking and hadn't found a place yet. then he lied about when he was leaving for a job and I called him when he was supposed to be on the plane and he wasn't and he said he was looking for an apartment and that he didn't tell me because I would alter my life around him. he told me he was leaving because I called him too many times the week before when he wouldn't answer his phone. He has always been weird, but the day I got this job he totally changed to a completely off the wall person. Everything was my fault. Nothing was said about him moving until I told him what this job paid. It doesn't pay near what his does. The last 5 yrs have been very painful with him. My kids are grown and married. he is 7 years younger than me. my kids have been trying to get me to leave for quite sometime now. He treated me so bad at a restaraunt when my daughter was here once and when we left and got in my car, she was crying at how bad he treated me. She told me that her dad didn't even treat me like that. He would always tell me wanted out of the relationship and when I would try and leave he would stop me and say I needed to stay here and take the opportunity go finish school, so I could get a good job. I was in school here for a couple of years. I left a good job to come here to marry him. He would tell me he couldn't wait to get rid of me and never have to see me or talk to me or me be in his life at all. I felt trapped. If I went back home, I really didn't have any place to go to get my self together enough to get a job. I pray everyday for God to give me the strength to get through one more day. Things went bad for me and my car got repossessed a few years ago. He had been on me to get out of here, to go he couldn't stand me. So after that happened I told him I was going back to where I came from nothing had gone right for me and I was tired of all of it. He called me at work the next day and had bought me a car. He told me that night it was his car and when I do finally leave it stays. But he was really nice about it when called earlier that day. He gave me the title 2 years ago and 10 grand and told me to leave. Okay, then he came back and told me if I wanted to stay and finish school that was the money for me to use for the next 5 months and he wouldn't be giving me anymore money. I never knew if I was coming or going. After I caught him lying 2 wks ago I just told him not to come back. And he hasn't. He said he is looking for a place when he is in town. Then he told me his credit has a blemish on it, I know better than that. It is a mistake I remember when it happened it was over a power bill that didn't get transferred over and when it was caught it was paid. and that is not going to keep someone from getting an apartment. All I wanted was for this to work out. I wanted him to be who he was when I met him, and he is getting worse and worse. I tear myself up thinking he really wanted out of the relationship all these years, and that I made him into this person.
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