So I went down this crazy path this week with my ex to try to once again get him to "understand why I divorced him" and show him how his treatment of me was the cause of our divorce. What did I get? A fresh new wave of blame, denial he did anything wrong, confirmation he is a changed man (has a new gf to boot, she will be treated so much better) and that I just cant' stand it that people don't like me. He reminded me on several occasions that "you divorced me", without any acknowledgement he did anything wrong. Why do I keep going down this path to try to make myself better for this man, to get him to understand my feelings and to validate that I am worth something? He even went so far to say, if you had talked to your friends, instead of me, maybe things would have been different? Seriously?? How do you talk to someone who is never there, or who walks out on conversations or tells you that you can't take a joke, or you are too sensitive, or you are just crazy, you are a roller coaster. I am going nuts! I have read everything I can on emotional abuse and can't seem to grasp the concept.
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